Lack of hummus.
I must admit, I'm sitting here crying a (teeny tiny) bit reading how much you all love your mums, it really is touching.

I just hope one day, i'll forgive my mum for bringing me into a family with a mentally ill, alcoholic, abusive, general 'bad-man' father and I'll be able to love her like you all love yours. Right now, I feel like she's not really related to me.
( Wiggle nom, Wed 17 Feb 2010, 4:43, 6 replies)

It's not her fault is it?
He may not have been that when she met him, does she need your support?
Don't cry for the relationship you don't have with your mum, (I learnt this one the hard way too) make what you can with what you have. Or believe me, you will regret it.

Good luck ;)
( Blind Meach Cautiously optimistic, Wed 17 Feb 2010, 9:32, closed)

I disagree^
Not all mothers are saints and not all are deserving of unconditional love from their children. If it will cause you less pain to cut ALL ties with her and live your own life with people that YOU have chosen, then that's a good choice too.

Too much history here and I don't feel like sharing, but sometimes, they DESERVE it when their kids refuse to forgive them for giving them a shitty start in life.

It's very easy to be a good parent, or at least, not to be a bad one. You shouldn't have to pay for choices they made - they should be able to repent at leisure - for the rest of their lives sometimes.

Chin up.

K
(K.W.A. Knickers With Attitude, Wed 17 Feb 2010, 9:44, closed)

Fair play,
I just read (between the lines) it was the father at fault here. Bad mothers have it coming to them too.

Sorry, have my counselling head on this morning.
( Blind Meach Cautiously optimistic, Wed 17 Feb 2010, 9:50, closed)

yes
my mother keeps taking me to court. She's a bit mad.

sigh!
( camp freddy well, would you look at that!, Wed 17 Feb 2010, 10:03, closed)

man up

(TheManWithThePlan cussed your mum on, Wed 17 Feb 2010, 15:27, closed)

Same problem here
But not to such a great scale. My father still is a twunt though.
(. Y . ), Wed 17 Feb 2010, 17:56, closed)