» Sexual fetishes

I have a lot...
This is going to be a long post, simply because I like being concise on these sorts of matters rather than terse.

My first and easily most prominent fetish (series?) is within BDSM. While I would guess that most persons within the BDSM community fall into one of two roles (Dominant or submissive), I'm one of what would be categorized as a switch. That is, I like be both Dominant and submissive, depending upon my mood and partner. There are some days where I may have a lot of pent-up aggression and feel particularly dominant sexually, for example, and on the other side there may be days where I want to give up control and become sexually submissive. Most of my likes can be applied in either position but there are some that don't work or I like in one position and not the other.

I love restraints. This is one of the boths. When at the hands of a Domme, I love being restrained, it helps to set the tone and shows how much I trust the Domme and how willing I am. This can be anywhere from a simple hands/arms tied behind the back to a put-on-all-fours and have all limbs bound, unable to move. I also like the reverse, tying up a woman. I love starting with the arms behind the back, just a bit tight, then as I move her down, apply more as needed. The feeling of helplessness adds in a certain sexual thrill, and as a bonus, it provides a nice place to grip onto when extra leverage is needed.

Strap-on play. Obviously this is receiving, not giving, seeing as how I already have a natural set. This is a wonderful feeling, letting the woman become the user and I become the object. And before you ask, no, I am completely straight. It is certainly a very interesting experience and sensation, and for maximum effect, should be tried in a variety of positions. For those of you curious, it's just like regular anal, but in reverse, so any position your partner can do, you can do as well. To that note, yes, I've had it on my back and riding, as well as the ubiquitous all-fours position.

Spanking/flogging/whipping/etc. Both sides. This is a lot of fun, and if properly done, gives a very thrilling experience. There's nothing like the feel of a paddled ass against cool air. This field of course ranges from the simple spank up to full-on whippings, so everyone has their own likings. Combined with restraint and you can use it to build excitement.

Genital worship. This goes both ways. Fairly self-explanatory, the sub worships the Dom/me's genitals physically and/or verbally.

Boot worship. Me as a sub. I'm not sure why I like this. Unlike anything else I list here, I never really had a partner introduce me to it, I found it on my own and tried it (with a partner) and liked it. I really can't explain the attraction I have. While this may sound like a low-grade porno, perhaps it's part of my submissive side, trying to please the Dominant one, by worshiping the part that is just above me.

Leather outfits. Both to a degree. While I've never worn much in the way of leather other than a pair of pants one time (and I enjoyed it), I find the image of a woman wearing leather to be very arousing. Knee or thigh-high boots, pants and a corset is the bloody jackpot, as it were. I don't apply this same distinction to latex, since latex (in my opinion) looks just trampy. Leather looks both dominant and dangerous in a way.

Older women. I'm not sure what it is, either. Perhaps my personality combined with the fact that I usually look/act older than I am is what draws them in. Some of my earliest sexual encounters have been with older women. And I don't mean a year or two older, once as a 17 year old I pulled a 29 year old. No lie. I've had women twice my age (I'm 23 as of this writing) hit on me. Maybe I'm cougar bait, who knows. Give me the choice of a 18 year old with a pert body, or her 26 year old older self who's seen a few things, and I'll take the 26 year old. They simply...know things.

Tall women. Hey, amazons are rare, and most of them are very good looking. I've yet to see one who's drop-dead ugly. Plus the submissive side of me likes them, someone tall and imposing...

Throughout my life I've maintained an open-minded aspect to all things, including those sexual, and I'm constantly wondering what out there I would like. I know some people like them, however I have an outright 'no' on watersports, scat and death, and am strongly adverse to anything that results in mutilation or body alteration would have to be done by someone I'd known and trusted for a long time, and discussed beforehand very extensively.
(Sat 24th Oct 2009, 16:00, More)

» Banks

Banks? Who needs them.
I'm reading over these posts and I wonder why so many of you haven't seen the light (in a purely metaphorical sense, not adjudicating a evangelical institution) over banks. A bank is a corporation that's #1 goal is to make money. Plain and simple, like any other business. The only thing different is regulation and how they do it. That's why they have low interest rates on savings and high fines, levies and interest rates on loans.



There's a little financial institution I'd like to interest everyone to. It's called a "credit union". I know these are readily available in the US, and I believe they are in the UK though there's only a few of them.

Functionally, they're similar to a bank in that they hold money for you, give you interest, loans, etc. They're also corporations and are designed to make money. The key difference is that they are run by the members, rather than a business owner.

They also have tight regulations (again, this is the US I'm talking about, don't know about the regs for UK credit unions) that keep them from making too high of a profit margin. That means that income they get goes back to the members in the form of better services and interest rates. While interest rates are in the shithole now, a credit union will still offer substantially better interest rates on anything it offers than a regular bank. A guy I know at USbank (yes, that's their name) is only getting 0.1% interest on his savings, my credit union is getting 0.25%

What else? Well, any loans or loan-related services they offer (such as credit card issuance) will have better terms. That means you pay less interest on a loan, or get a credit card with low/no terms. My Visa that I have through my credit union has no interest and I only pay a small yearly fee for it. If you went through a bank they'll hit you with interest and steep fees.

So what's the catch? Well, to join a credit union you have to meet their membership qualifications, which usually entail living in a specific area (San Diego County Credit Union -- mine), being part of a specific organization (Navy Federal Credit Union -- any branch of the armed forces) or other requirements. Typically even if you move or leave the organization, as long as you continue to follow the charter rules, you can stay in the credit union indefinitely.


Seriously, banks are evil. Fuck 'em. Every one of them deserves to die and collapse under their own broken and immoral ways.


She didn't complain about length!
(Tue 21st Jul 2009, 18:48, More)

» IT Support

Listen to the IT person, please
So before I create follow-up posts with different stories from my last job (where I worked tech support), I'll share a little something that just happened right now that makes me wonder why a person will question everything that a professional in the field will say.

A person I know has just had a monitor go bad. Everyone's been there. It's a new TFT monitor, he tells me the symptoms (monitor turns on, whines, then turns off). I tell him it's shot, get a new one. He mentions it later the next day (today), other people start telling him to repair it.

Now as an aside, I must tell everyone here that you should never, EVER, EVER work on the internals of a monitor (regardless of type) or power supply. To do so can result in death. It is incredibly easy to electrocute yourself while working with these electronic devices, even if turned off and unplugged from the wall (no joke). I work in IT and I would *never* try to fix one of these.

Now, I stepped in and informed the guy that if he wanted to fix his monitor, he should have good health insurance and life insurance. Barring that, he should either toss the monitor or have a certified repair technician look at it.

Apologies for the lack of un-funny, there might be some of that going around.

PS: If anyone has a clip of The Screen Savers where Kevin discharged a monitor in front of the audience, please shoot me a link. Trying to find it so I can show these people what kind of dangers there are.
(Sun 27th Sep 2009, 22:54, More)

» I witnessed a crime

Not too many
Well, I've witnessed a few minor crimes in my life, nothing as glamorous as seeing a murder happen. Granted, I grew up in and live in the state where robbers armed with AK47s w/ drum magazines and full body armor had a major shootout with police (that's California for those of you who don't know). But I don't think that major events like those that are broadcast on TV are exactly worthy of this QotW.

To answer the question...

I've witnessed two suicides. One was a completed suicide, the other an "almost". Since the former is a bit too tender, the "almost" was from an ex of mine. This was before she was an ex, mind you, but during high school she grabbed a knife from someone and brought it to her wrists. Before I even knew what was happening, her arms had been grabbed and the knife seized. I could go on about that crazy bitch, but I'll save that for another QotW.

Another crime I've witnessed is...
PIRACY.
You may roll your eyes, but here in the US, it often carries harsher sentences than murder (short of execution).

My last one (that I can recall) also took place during high school. Simply put, it was a knife fight between the gangs (as the Mexicans and Blacks often quarreled). Some people were stabbed. Imagine my surprise when SWAT comes running through the school.

I'll post more as I can recall them.
(Fri 15th Feb 2008, 20:08, More)

» Dumb things you've done

When I was about 18 or so...
I sliced my bloody hand open.

The culprits? A glass window and my stupidity.

I hadn't opened the window in my room in a long time, so naturally it was a bit stuck. Trying to open it with just one hand won't do. I need some leverage.

So I opt to pick the static pane of glass for leverage, bracing my left hand against it (to apply friction and all that) as I use my right hand to push the window open to the left.


I hear sounds of stressing glass about a quarter second before my left hand goes through the window. I haven't pushed the window out, oh no. I've pushed a 10-15cm boundary out of the window, making the sharp edges slice against my palm, wrist and the back of my hand.

Thankfully my wrist wasn't sliced open. I had a myriad of minor cuts all over my palm, wrist and back of my hand. And then I noticed the Big One: a 3cm long gash on the meaty section of the palm, right below the thumb. I look at this for a moment, then realize that it's bleeding quite profusely, since the wound is so deep. Not spurting, like an arterial wound, but blood's coming out pretty damned fast.

What would any 18 year old do in this situation? That's right, I shriek like a little girl and run to my mother, crying hysterically whilst holding my bloody hand. She sees it and curses, pushes me into the bathroom and holds my hand underneath the tap, squeezing it and applying pressure. I can feel the little "grains" of glass popping out, ugh. Then she wraps my hand in some gauze and tape and sends me off.

Bloody thankful that I didn't have to get stitches or go to casualty...

At least I can look upon my life now (I'm 22 since Dec 14) and nod, knowing that I haven't done anything as stupid as that since then.

But hey, I've got time to make up for.
(Sat 22nd Dec 2007, 3:48, More)