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This is a question Will you go out with me?

"Bloody Kraut, a" asks, "How did you get your current flame to go out with you? If they turned you down, how bad was it?"

Was it all romantic? Or were the beer goggles particularly strong that night?

(, Thu 28 Aug 2008, 17:32)
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school and beyond (it's a long one)
This story is your basic and bog standard love story, nothing compared to a few posts i've read on here, so read on if you will.

It all started when i was in school. I became friends with a couple of people on my school bus who were a few years below me. One of these people, is called K (name withheld for obvious reasons, she doesn't know i'm posting this)

As time passed we grew quite fond of each other, but at that age i was more interested in girls the same age as me and with less morals. We were good friends though, we made each other laugh on the school bus and we talked about anything and everything, it was great. After my GCSE's though, i left to go to college, i promised i would stay in touch with her. To an extent i did, but only for a month or so before my e-mail contact list was wiped (fresh start, i kept telling myself)

But... There was always a pang of guilt, some thoughts creeping in and whispering into my conscience "What if?" I thought i had lost her for good, i didn't know how to find out where/what she was doing and so, i conceeded defeat and carried on with life.

My last relationship wasn't too good, i was more work orientated and lacked motivation. People around me knew that there was something up, but they couldn't quite tell what was up. After a year and a half, we broke up. It was nasty as the trust had just gone out the relationship. So....there i was, jobless, pennyless, single and with no qualifications except Average (albeit quite high average) GCSE's and parts of a HND which i failed 3 times.

One day, i was on MSN, and i noticed a contact, Katy (not K, who this story is about), who went to my old school. I decided to strike up a conversation with her to see how life was treating her. After a while, dutch courage got the best of me and i asked the inevitable question "does K still go to school?" I was over the moon when she said yes

It was then i decided not to be a follower but this time act, seize the day and all that. I passed on my e-mail address and asked Katy, can you pass that on to K and ask if she would like to talk to me?

I waited a few days before logging on and finding out someone wants to talk to me, it was K's full name, i still remembered it. I froze, i can honestly say i froze on the spot as i tried to calm myself down. The first talk was the rockiest, we said our hello's, and "is this Jinx" etc. When it came to asking how she was, she replied "not good, my dog got put down the other day"

Some people say, you can tell how the relationship will pan out from the start. This didn't look good.

"Sod it" I thought. "Lets see what happens, if anything, we're talking, i never thought this would happen again"

And so we got chatting, she was doing her a-levels in Business, French and German while i was thinking of applying for an electricians course in my old college, thinking thats where the money is.

The more we talked, the more i realised the fondness for her was still there, only now i realised this was more than fondness, it was love. I kept the flame going for her for 4 years and it never faded completely. I was determined and eventually i told her how i felt, and expected to be blocked momentarily. But that didn't happen, instead, she told me that she fancied me too. My Flabber had been Gasted and i didn't know how to Carry on. Eventually, she told me to change my relationship status on Myspace (i'm no emo, it's good to get news from bands) to "in a relationship" to see what her friends would say. That was when we started going out.

After a while, we agreed that our anniversary was on the 14th april and it was weird as both of us couldn't believe we turned out like we did.

So...Where are we now?

Well...I told her about the electricians course, she kept drilling it into my head that i was so much more than that but i failed to see that due to a VERY low self esteem. She told me about a college course to get a-levels and go to uni. Something which i had always wanted to do.

We've been together now for, coming up, a year and 5 months. Some people on here have been with their significant other for longer than that, but this is my story and she is the only one that matters to me. She helped me change my life around, she made me promise to try the college course. I've passed and i'm now off to uni. We have never been stronger, we had a point last year where we nearly broke up, but we rode through it.

I honestly can say that i would never change a thing about the circumstances in which we met, who knows how they would have padded out otherwise. She is the one and only reason why i'm looking forward to the future rather than resigning to it.

And as i type this bleary and watery eyed with a huge smile on my face, i cannot help but think about how she's helped me
- Pushing me on a course to improve grades and life
- Welcome me into her family
- Confide in me
- Improve my confidence by an impressive amount
- Motivate me to improve my guitar playing and general skills
- Show that i'm more than what i think i am

She's the love of my life, she's my one and only and she's my soulmate.
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 0:43, 2 replies)
Yay for you
and yay for her. A happy ending!
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 0:58, closed)
D'aww.
Made the corners of my mouth twist uncontrollably.
Good for you, fella.
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 2:55, closed)

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