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In amongst all the tales of bitterness and poo, we occasionally get fluffy stories that bring a small tear to our internet-jaded eyes.

In celebration of this, what is the nicest thing someone's done for you? Whether you thoroughly deserved it or it came out of the blue, tell us of heartwarming, selfless acts by others.

Failing that, what nice things have you done for other people, whether they liked it or not?

(, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 16:14)
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Someone gave me a city
A while ago, I wrote here about a book that changed my life. A Nasty Bad Man did a Nasty Bad Thing to me when I was fifteen and it screwed me up for ages. One of the nicest things ever done for me was someone helping me make some new memories to override the bad ones.

Let me explain. The Nasty Bad Thing happened in London. I'd arranged to meet him at tube station A and he lived near tube station B. The Nasty Bad Thing happened at his house.

So every time I went to London for a jaunt (which was rare – I avoided the city wherever possible out of fear) and saw either of these two tube stations, or even their names on the tube map, I had a little panic. Or sometimes a big panic. Both names were hard to miss - one is very central, the other is associated with a large stadium. This made having fun in London pretty tricky - every damn tube journey would set me off, and no matter how sorted you get after something like this, little things can trigger memories. And I do like London, there’s loads to do and fun places to go – I didn’t want to be scared any more.

So, onto the nice.

I'd decided I wanted to make some new memories. This might sound daft but it works to great effect. When a Nasty Bad Man has used the word 'dick' aggressively at you, that word becomes very hard to say or even think without remembering him, his face, his voice. However, painting it in purple paint and covering it with glitter with a happy giggling counsellor makes it funny and sparkly.

I wanted new memories of those tube stations. And I wanted nice ones. My last memories of tube station B were of midwinter, waiting to be rescued away from the horrors, and me saying to the Nasty Bad Man, ‘I don’t feel very well. Don’t let me fall over’ And coming to in a heap on the floor next to a flower stall while he stood there sneering. Did I mention that he was a Nasty Bad Man? So I asked a Lovely Man if he would come with to station A, kiss me nicely, accompany me to station B and just see what happened.

Lovely Man did just that. We went to tube station A, we kissed. We went on the journey, and even though Lovely Man isn’t a fan of the tube, he kept an eye on me, looked after me and made sure I was ok.

When we got to tube station B, it was bright, bright sunshine, a bustling day. There were more shops than I remembered, cafes too. It was a vibrant place, development was happening, and new life being breathed into the area. It wasn’t the same place at all – it was amazing.

We stopped and had a cigarette, and I grinned for a long while. We kissed again and got the tube back. No need to hang about. I grinned all the way back to tube station A and we went about our business happy.

That tube journey with that Lovely Man gave me back London, the museums and galleries I love, the theatres, the pubs! It gave me back my freedom to be there and feel safe and to travel on the tube and not be scared of the tube map. It was the equivalent of sparkly glitter being poured all over the crapness and the trauma, and it was much needed.

If that Lovely Man happens to read this, and thinks about clicking, I’d like him to know that’s he’s clicking for himself too. I’m telling the story, but it was what he did that made it.
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 13:51, 16 replies)
It's nice to read stories about conquering demons like that.

Truly heartwarming and well written, a very difficult subject made a pleasure to read.
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 13:57, closed)
Hurray for lovely men.
They make the world go round : )
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 13:58, closed)
Yay for lovely people.

This QOTW is bringing many smiles to my face :)
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 14:03, closed)
Quick question
Why have you anonymised the tube stations?
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 14:10, closed)
in case Nasty Bad Man is a b3tan and reads this and remembers me. He has already managed to track me down once and I don't want him to do that again.
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 14:12, closed)
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 14:19, closed)

Lovely Man helped you but you did it.

And you can do anything you put your mind to.

(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 14:33, closed)
You've done so well to face this down. I've helped a friend through a bad time and it took guts of the most enormous kind to face your fears like this.


And for Lovely Man: you, Sir, are a true gentleman.
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 15:15, closed)
That's a lovely thing to do.
(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 16:42, closed)
{ . }{ . } boob-squashing hugs
to you and Lovely Man.

Your courage and strength are an inspiration my dear. You have my utmost respect and admiration. And snogs.

(, Fri 3 Oct 2008, 19:04, closed)
and *clicks*

This has really touched me.
(, Sat 4 Oct 2008, 0:34, closed)
I know what it's like
To have a Nasty Bad Man haunt your memories. I met my own Nasty Bad man last year. Not good. Still terrified of some things.

You are a great inspiration for so many people out there.

And Lovely Man : You are an amazing person. I Applaude you. With a Capital A at the beginning and an "e" tacked onto the end.
(, Sat 4 Oct 2008, 14:21, closed)
I've clicked this for three reasons.
It was a well told and memorable story.
I'm glad I can call you my friend.
Lovely Man is indeed very, very lovely. Fact.
(, Sat 4 Oct 2008, 16:18, closed)
*clicks* also
My God this QOTW continues to shock and amaze me

I do hope that I one day am one tenth of the man that Mr Lovely Man is!

(, Sat 4 Oct 2008, 16:53, closed)
*hugs teh Ancrenne*
Although I only met you briefly the other week, I hope one day I'm half the strong, amazing woman you are. xx
(, Sat 4 Oct 2008, 17:57, closed)
Yay to conquering demons!
* click *
(, Mon 6 Oct 2008, 12:42, closed)

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