Question
A friend of mine is highly fucked off that she asked a question of a male subordinate this morning and was told "Don't you worry your pretty little head about it". He then refused to apologise or to actually answer the question. I think she should make it official cos that's clearly both sexist and insubordinate but I might be hopelessly biased. If you could temper the standard "what was she doing out of the kitchen in the first place?" responses with actual opinions I'd be grateful.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:22, 3 replies, latest was 11 years ago)

Written warning for the insubordination. Nothing for the sexism.

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:26, Reply)

Because it's perceived or because the insubordination is more serious?

(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:32, Reply)

The insubordination is more serious and the sexism is perceived.

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:34, Reply)

Fair play
Thank you
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:36, Reply)

Honest answer
If she is his fucking superior then she should act like it, rather than running off to HR etc. first she should confront the individual and explain that while she is happy for humour in the work place she also expects respect for the position she is in and does also want questions answered.
Running off to make a complaint weakens her position if she doesn't try to confront it first.


Just my opinion of course
(Bonzodog29 is an unemployed sponge of the worst kind, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:27, Reply)

She did make it apparent that his attitude was unacceptable, repeatedly, but he refused to retract it
or answer the question. The issue is that he's utterly disrespectful of her superiority. My advice was for her to drag him into a room and give him an ear-bashing, so I do agree with you.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:31, Reply)

Fair enough,
I would always say to try and confront it first, purely because if he is that type of dickhead then he will see it as running crying to HR and while he will get a bollocking it is a moral victory over the "weak" woman.
(Bonzodog29 is an unemployed sponge of the worst kind, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:48, Reply)

This.

(DBT became a fruitarian on, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:33, Reply)

Disciplinary - straight off. No ifs buts or maybes*
*Unless there were no witnesses. He sounds like a 24 carat cunt
(Captain Placid 24/7 ball gags, brownie mix and clown porn, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:28, Reply)

Yeah he is
Used to shag my same-sex dance partner. Although if he hadn't he'd be in the minority.

Er, apart from being in a minority already.
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Tue 6 May 2014, 9:33, Reply)

Sounds like he's either......
...A) So sure of his position he doesn't think anything will happen to him
Or
B) Completely oblivious to his position in the company vs his boss's position and actually can't see what he did wrong
Or
C) Just a twat who will play the 'minority card' if he gets disciplined.
(Captain Placid 24/7 ball gags, brownie mix and clown porn, Tue 6 May 2014, 10:03, Reply)