still sounds like rape to me

(PsychoChomp, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:49, 4 replies, latest was 14 years ago)

and you'd know

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:49, Reply)

And you'd know.

EDIT - Shit.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:51, Reply)

haha

( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:55, Reply)

She doesn't know if she said yes, and we don't know if he was so drunk that her drunken yes just seemed like a sane yes
So whilst he's definitely a cunt, Kitty's saying he might NOT be a rapist.
She's giving him the benefit of the doubt instead of going "Oh he MUST have raped me!!!" like some mean people do, to cover their shame. This causes a bad attitude towards actual rape victims.
Kitty's being well fair here but possibly too hard on herself. Guess she'll never know.
Sorry such a vile thing happened, Kitzo.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:52, Reply)

^^This

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:54, Reply)

It's ok, it was years ago so I'm over it now.
You're right though Roota, I honestly don't think of him as A Rapist, even though I've known him to take the advantage when he can. It just wasn't worth it for what happened and I hate these girls who sleep with someone when they're drunk and then claim they were spiked and raped and blah blah blah, I think it's kind of insulting to people who are genuinely raped and it dilutes the seriousness of it. It's women crying false rape that make people question real rape and then it's harder to convict proper scum bags. This guy was just a horny loser who didn't care if I found him disgusting or not.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:55, Reply)

^This
Been in a similar situation.
Grey area. Not worth further hassle and humiliation.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:57, Reply)

yeah half of me didn't want to tell anyone
that he'd had his naked penis anywhere near me. Ick.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:03, Reply)

I suppose so,
but think how much shit it would have caused between me and my friends if I'd tried to pursue it. It probably wouldn't have got anywhere because by my own admission I don't remember anything and he would just claim that we were both drunk and it was consensual. Plus my friends said we went home from the club together (which I also don't remember) and that I didn't seem that drunk to them, so maybe he thought the same.

Bleurgh. Makes me feel queasy thinking about it, he's so revolting.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:52, Reply)

It's not worth bringing it up to make a point
so lets talk about monty, he was wearing a sleevless top to the pub, he looked like the "Rock one" of an early 90s boy band.
(PsychoChomp, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:55, Reply)

monty
sleeveless top

hahahahahaha
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:55, Reply)

I asked him for a gun show. He refused.
It was sad times.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:00, Reply)

poor show
I'd expect better from him. although my mental image of monty is not one of someone who could be expected to put on a respectable gun show anyway.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:02, Reply)

Musket show?

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:07, Reply)

that reminded me of


O soldier, soldier, won't you marry me
With your musket fife and drum?
O no sweet maid I cannot marry you
For I have no coat to put on.
So up she went to her grandfather's chest
And she got him a coat of the very, very best
And the soldier put it on.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:10, Reply)

And fucked her over his drum

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:11, Reply)

Oh ya little fucker ye

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:12, Reply)

Labs..ruining kids' nursery rhymes since 2010

( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:13, Reply)

Eye thang yew

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:22, Reply)

He looked cool and well you know it

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:56, Reply)

Is there a photo of this?
Was he not wearing an AC/DC tshirt, which is how I've always pictured him.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:57, Reply)

monty is fabulous.
i remember inspecting his septum
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:20, Reply)

I've never told anyone apart from my father
And I don't want to discuss it here, but once I took a similar decision, and I don't regret it. Sometimes, when you're not sure about what's going on, it's better to let it run and avoid making it more complicated.

Probably, you'd have got half of the world saying it was your fault, and the other half saying it was his, and all got a bad mess. Like this, it's just a bad night of not being sure of what happened.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Mon 21 Jun 2010, 11:57, Reply)

I was a bit of a prick tease back then as well so a part of me thinks it was probably a bit my fault
I've learned since then that sex seems to be way more important to blokes than it does women, so women shouldn't hint that they're going to offer it if they're not really. I'm not justifying his actions but I'm not entirely blameless.

Also, he was one of a large group of friends so it would have caused no end of shit and probably caused fights in the group.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:00, Reply)

back then?

(PsychoChomp, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:07, Reply)

haha
I'm a one man woman now, I only tease Wiggy's prick.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Mon 21 Jun 2010, 12:12, Reply)