does sound glib
and I do empathise, but if you think of yourself as a victim you will always be a victim, and asking yourself why won't change it but you can change how you feel about and it therefore how your react.
That may also sound glib bit you can't do therapy on a message board.
(nimrodihnio making gravy for one., Fri 22 Oct 2010, 10:37, 1 reply)

True
and true.
I agree completely. It's tricky to objectively say "I need to stop being a victim" whilst in the midst of weapons-grade-head-fuckerry.
Still, it sounds like the OP has distanced himself sufficiently & learnt an (albeit harsh) lesson.
( Tab Hunter Make this useless process end and so, begin again, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 12:09, closed)

Lessons learnt definately
And I am stronger for it, and although its my nature in a way to be a door mat. I certinately am never going to let anyone else get away with anything even close to that sort of stuff again.
Totally over it now and look back on the whole thing as a life experience. Things with family are great, I have a good circle of friends. Debt paid off. I rebuilt basiacally. She herself is still happy with the final girl. It all ended 6 years ago.
Assuming she has matured and grown up now as well, I hope she looks back on it and think "my god i was a t*at back then!"
(Miggyman, Fri 22 Oct 2010, 13:00, closed)