Thankfully
I realised this after a short 18 months. If I didn't have the inner strength to kick the fucker out it may have turned into a lifetime.
A leopard doesn't change it's spots. As me ma likes to say.
( Herb Alpert's Taxi Driver I have very beautiful lips, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:25, 1 reply)

my advice to friends has always been
if he hits you and you leave him, i'll be there for you. if you go back to him and he does it again, ask someone else for help.
i know that's harsh, but 3 years of trying to help a dear friend who was eventually killed have made me less inclined to repeat advice that isn't listened to
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:32, closed)

Mine was more the smash everything
up pull out a knife and psychologically threaten kinda guy. It's not harsh. I read your story the other week. I felt so sorry for you feeling guilty not being able to help. It's not anything anyone can do anything about except the person in the situation. No matter what my friends said the emotional blackmail made me stay longer than I should. The most dangerous time for any woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves. So don't feel bad. I'm sure your friend knew you were there for her. x
( Herb Alpert's Taxi Driver I have very beautiful lips, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:39, closed)

thanks
:)
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:42, closed)