May 2008 I lost a baby
at 13 weeks.

The technical term for this is an abortion but as I got near hysterical when it was referred to that way they called it a miscarriage. Then one nurse said to me that I was making a fuss over no more than a "dot". I asked her if she had children, been pregnant or lost a much wanted baby after it had been confirmed by the doctors and she said that she had not.

I told her to come see me when her "dot" was scraped away.
(whiskas loved by 8 out of 10 cats, Fri 12 Mar 2010, 21:14, 7 replies)

I'm sorry for your loss.
Although I've never had any intent of being a mom, I could never be that insensitive.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Fri 12 Mar 2010, 21:22, closed)

That's not good at all
I would've slapped the nurse's face off after that comment.
( Jeccius Steam Borderlands 2 junkie, Fri 12 Mar 2010, 21:48, closed)

been there too
luckily my medical team were much better (if you discount the 3 visits where they seem to think keeping someone who is losing/has lost their baby waiting in a room with other pregnant women for well over 30 mins each time 'much better')

Your nurse should not have been working in this area with that attitude, did you put in a complaint to the hospital (I know, its the last thing you are thinking about at a time like that)?
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Sat 13 Mar 2010, 2:35, closed)

I hope you complained, I really do.
I was fortunate enough to get kind and compassionate care when I miscarried. I've heard that that's not necessarily the default attitude and I'm really sorry to hear you were treated like that. It's a physically and emotionally awful time and women should be guaranteed decent support.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Sat 13 Mar 2010, 9:59, closed)

They don't listen
Mrs Memorial and I have suffered 2 12 week miscarriages ourselves and still trying.
Thankfully the crappy hospital that was feted by the risible STV (Glasgow's Queen Mother's) is now defunct but I'm sure the thoughtless, uncaring and tactless staff are still being employed by the NHS. Don't get me wrong, most of them were brilliant, caring and sympathetic but the ones they allowed out the first time were unbelievable.

Don't give in and make sure you complain. Explain to these officious medics that it isn't a complaint about them personally; just their professionalism...
(Albert_Memorial, Sat 13 Mar 2010, 10:20, closed)

What a bitch
she should've been sacked for that.

I bet her own mother would've been ashamed of her.
(Juan Quar is clinging to her front teeth on, Sat 13 Mar 2010, 15:12, closed)

Thank you everyone
I got one bit wrong - it was May 1998.

Afterwards I got pregnant pretty quickly and my second daughter was an accidental home delivery April 1999. The paramedics were wonderful and it was the first ever emergency birth for one of them which made it a bit special.
(whiskas loved by 8 out of 10 cats, Sat 13 Mar 2010, 22:58, closed)