I tried to hand myself in to the CSA before I took her to court last time.
'I'm the father of this kid and I'd like to go on the books as such and start paying'.
'Sorry sir we can't help you because you're the father - this has to come from the mother. Have you tried Citizens' Advice Bureau?'

The arrangement to date has meant that my kid gets the maximum money.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:11, 1 reply, 12 years ago)

So you could just refuse to pay anything until the mother contacts the CSA
But that would mean your kid going without.
( Peej, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:13, Reply)

I've thought about this but discounted the idea for that reason.
I'd only stop paying if I needed to use the money for legal fees.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:14, Reply)

i wonder if there is something in this
certainly in telling your ex that you won't be paying another penny until you get access. and that you'll happily tell the CSA the same thing.

however, the cash will be set aside for mini-boyce and will accrue each week.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:15, Reply)

See I'm not totally thick and spazzy
Stick it in a jar and if you don't need it for legal fees use it to buy her a fucking massive horse and then send her to her mothers with it
( Peej, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:16, Reply)

Silly Phillie
Horses don't fit in jars
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:18, Reply)

Not one jar
But many jars.
( Peej, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:21, Reply)

Of course, of course
Many jars full of horse
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:25, Reply)