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Horny Christian Teens
As I've said before, I spent the first 22ish years of my life in the church, some of it quite conservative and evangelical in a slightly scary way, including those cherished teenage years when all a guy can think about is sex.

There seem to be two approaches for the horny Christian teen when considering sex, one of which is "how far can I push it (so to speak)" and one is "how can I avoid as much 'impurity' as possible". Most Christian teens seem to opt for the first, which I can tell you only helps highlight the craziness that is the whole "no sex before marriage" thing, because inevitably you end up in the "we're both naked, we're both horny, why the hell not" situation. It's deeply unnatural to get to that position, both ready and raring to go, and then suddenly jam the brakes on! Why, you might wonder, do I talk about this? Well mainly because I've come to the conclusion that Christian teens really are human, and far too often tie themselves into knots trying to justify what's normal and natural and spending far too much of their teenage years feeling guilty about something that should be exciting and fun.

As for the "how pure can I be" school of thought, that actually might get its own post because that's a whole other rant!

Length? Eagerly orally attended to by horny Christian teens because hey, that's not sex, not really!
(Mon 23rd Mar 2009, 22:29, More)

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Apologies for the lack of funny
Grew up (as far as any man can say he grows up, in that he gets older but no more mature) in a Christian family, the most lovely people in the world, went to church every Sunday and joined in all of the activities related, was great fun. When I got to uni, the world at my feet, I get heavily involved with the Christian Union (you know, those annoying people in hoodies who smile too much and unsuccessfully try to sue the Guild of students over something which the CU were clearly in the wrong for). I also become heavily involved with a very conservative, fundamentalist evangelical church, and between those two almost my whole time at uni was spent doing "Christian" things. Now I shouldn't complain, nobody forced me to do these things, and certainly nobody forced me to get married because living together and having sex before marriage would have been "wrong", but I can't help wondering how different my life would have been had I just spent the last 10 years of my life making decisions because they made sense, not because "the church" said so.

Happily I'm now the atheist side of agnostic, not because of some terrible event (Christianity actually helped rationalise my mother's death from cancer, and really didn't shake my faith at all) but because I was finally forced to ask myself why exactly I believed what I did. The default position, and I think a lot of Christians fail to realise this, should be to refuse to believe something unless given a good reason to believe it. Far too many Christians think it's the other way around, that we should believe whatever people tell us unless someone can come up with a good reason not to. Why, after so many years of rejecting other religions on the basis they had no proof, I hadn't realised I wasn't applying the same standard to Christianity I will never know.

Maybe later I'll come up with something funny, am sure there's a lot to be said, but this little rant has been very cathartic (in a Greek sense, not a medical one!)

Length? About 23 years which was plenty long enough!
(Sat 21st Mar 2009, 15:42, More)