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2 kids, 2 very different pregnancies
Mrs Mattster has always been at the mercy of her hormones. Ragweek is, without fail, a challenging and volatile time, often painful too for a variety of reasons. Within a few days normality will return. Sounds familiar, non?

We decided to start a family and she fell pregnant, our naughty outdoor nooky doing the trick. What followed was the happiest 9 months of my life / our relationship; gone was the mental unreasonableness, the petty accusations and shouting competitions. The 'one week in four is going to be bastard, head down and get on with it son' approach to life it was necessary to adopt was banished.

We now have a beautiful son approaching his 3rd birthday and in general we love him to bits and being parents has improved our lives immeasurably. However, the dark (red) week returned with a vengeance; no better or worse than before but business very much as usual.

Aside from that, so much are we enjoying our new family that we decided to have another baby and the wife again falls pregnant. Mint! thinks I, another 9 months of blissful love time with my beautiful wife, followed by a 2nd bundle of joy. What could go wrong?

We're just over 6 months in and it's been hell on earth. Like a perpetual period but with added violence. I've run out of lip to bite. Now the probably sexist bit: we know our second child will be a girl (yea one of each, what we both wanted). I'm seriously entertaining the notion that the joyful first pregnancy was due to our son being just that: a boy not a girl. Could it be that a male foetus balanced out the bad hormones? Could it be that now she’s carrying a girl it’s double trouble? An insight to what our household will be like in a dozen years or so?

Could this be a bit contentious for a first post?
(Tue 5th Jan 2010, 9:34, More)