Ok I was saving these tips for my best selling book but what the hell...
If I'm actually asking a lady out, I tend to go with the least threatening language, women like to feel safe... if you've already had a bit of a conversation I use "Oh we'll have to go and grab a coffee or something sometime and chat some more". It shows that you've enjoyed talking to them already, it's forceful enough by using the words "have to" yet it's relatively safe and non-threatening as it suggests a daylight non-alcoholic drinks meeting.

Said in a confident but not cocky way it's hard for the other person to say no without sounding a tad harsh!

Of course what you talk about over said coffee is up to you, you're on your own then, I'm just helping you score that first one-on-one date!

Please feel free to flame me and call into question my sexual prowess :)
( JebediahSpringfield, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:34, 12 replies)

the danger with this approach is
that the object of your affections may think to herself "oh no, he's just asking me for coffee and a chat, he must be a bumsexual"
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:37, closed)

See this is a common misconception
You arrange the first date as a possible bumsexual (as you so gloriously put it) but then you make it very clear on the coffee date that you are in fact a raging heterosexual.

By which time they're already comfortable in your presence.

I also find the "telling them you want to wait before sex" as the best way of getting sex far sooner than you first imagined.

Reverse psychology is great!
( JebediahSpringfield, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:39, closed)

you speak sense
providing that in the first instance the girl has room in her life for a mutual friend of dorothy
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:42, closed)

Just show her your cock.
It says so much without words.
(Tugnut I got them all..., Mon 14 Dec 2009, 12:43, closed)

You think too much/try too hard. Just be yourself. Works a fucking treat. If you're me.
(The Boy Monders I have ginger bits in my beard., Mon 14 Dec 2009, 12:49, closed)

Outside of immediate family too?

(Tugnut I got them all..., Mon 14 Dec 2009, 12:51, closed)

As it happens...
If you take away the psychology detail that's pretty much just me being me anyway, it's a retrospective study as to why even when I'm not trying or with someone I seem to get so lucky!
( JebediahSpringfield, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 14:29, closed)

First impressions are very important
- but second impresions much more so.
( Larry Vest One day at a time, sweet Jesus, FFS., Mon 14 Dec 2009, 12:51, closed)

I do great Rigsby impression..
"Miss Jones, Miss Jones".

Unfortuantely, my second impression is of Fred West
( Piper Alpha is being a grumpy northerm bastard on:, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 13:06, closed)

Fucking hell, it's Swiss Toni.

( Amorous Badger NAKED BEA ARTHUR PHOTOS 4U, Tue 15 Dec 2009, 7:18, closed)

Wow 2 in the collection in one QOTW...
I'm flattered!
( JebediahSpringfield, Tue 15 Dec 2009, 12:12, closed)

THREE.

( Amorous Badger NAKED BEA ARTHUR PHOTOS 4U, Tue 15 Dec 2009, 20:29, closed)