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# Long distance relationships are really hard
Been there.. if you love each other, you'll find a way. (me and mine did)
(I helped save b3ta! mikenco, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 1:52, archived)
# she's kinda hung up on the
not wanting to curb my fun thing
she wants me to go to uni and meet people and not feel tied down to a girlfriend.
which is obviously crazy...
i certainly dont understand what goes through that pretty little head of hers...
(quibble, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 1:55, archived)
# It's easy to read into that
that she may not be a serious as yourself?
(I helped save b3ta! mikenco, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 1:57, archived)
# yeah, i've thought about that
but we've talked about it quite a lot, and she's said she really does see us happily ever after kind of thing, like her parents who split up for uni have been married for 25 years...

she says she's worried we'll miss each other and something bad'll happen.
it's also the fact that i'm going into my first year, she's going into her 3rd year, and then she'll have this 3 year placement with ernst and young. there's really no forseeable time we're going to be near each other.
we wont even see each other over holidays because she'll be stressed over exams and such.

thanks for your thoughts on this by the way, someone impartial is kinda helpful.
(quibble, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 2:04, archived)
# My predicament worked out for 'us'
18 years later, still married.

likewise, her parents..

I guess you just gotta run with it and see what destiny has in store for you both.

Best of luck and all that :)
(I helped save b3ta! mikenco, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 2:07, archived)
# yeah my plan is to just see what happens
i mean obviously now that it's fresh i'm more likely to make promises about what'll happen in three years time that i might not keep.
i mean three years IS a long long time and people change.

it's the not knowing that annoys me though...
someone should hurry up and invent a crystal ball or time machine of some kind.
(quibble, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 2:11, archived)
# No such luck when it comes to relationships
It's all about effort and teamwork from the both of you.

The 'team' will either pull through or it will not.

That is destiny
(I helped save b3ta! mikenco, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 2:18, archived)
# well yeah
it's like that episode of scrubs i always remember, where someones having a go at carla and turk, and telling them how ALL couples go through the same shit, but it's the ones that dont let that shit break them apart are the ones that stay.

but it's still enough to make you wonder, will i still like her in three years time, will she still like me?

the worst part for now though really is cause she's like my best friend never mind girlfriend, so i cant exactly cut contact and move on because i'll have no-one to talk to, and carrying on talking to her is just going to make me miserable for the next three years.
well... probably.
(quibble, Wed 18 Jun 2008, 2:30, archived)