Did she need to know?
I mean, if you were otherwise happy in your relationship but didn't want a wedding, it would have been easier to talk a marriage thing through slowly instead of just going 'Yeah but nah...'
( Bats, Thu 3 Jan 2013, 15:37, 1 reply)

She had occasionally suggested she would like to get
married and have kids at some point. As mentioned in a reply just above I felt compelled to raise it, probably knowing full well what would result.
( number5 has been fighting tramps and losing., Thu 3 Jan 2013, 15:39, closed)

I completely understand the
'engineering a point of no return' thing, to be fair. Sometimes it's an easier route (albeit a no less painful one) than attempting to put a dent in something the other person assumes is perfect - whether it is or isn't.

... I'm not sure that sentence made any sense.
( Bats, Thu 3 Jan 2013, 15:52, closed)

Yep, and the best decision I could have made too
Met my wife to be a couple of month later and I knew instantly that we would be married. That was ten yers and several children ago!
( number5 has been fighting tramps and losing., Thu 3 Jan 2013, 17:19, closed)