We drew some of those cards too, when we had our second daughter (my wife was 35)
Autistic spectrum disorder, violent outbursts, inconsistent success using the toilet, no sense of danger, no fear, significant learning difficulties. Currently she's in mainstream school (at 7) but they're keeping her back in September and a special school is most likely on the cards for the future.

We also had the worry in pregnancy of signs of a possible genetic disorder picked up on the scan. Fortunately the amniocentesis came back clear.

We've got the issue of long-term care on the horizon too, so my advice to the OP is think very carefully.
( Snappyuk gets BIGGER with free sample., Fri 8 Jun 2012, 11:29, Reply)