Typically of most b3tards...
I had a fairly screwed up childhood.

Now I'm not wishing to blow one's own trumpet here but it seems that those of us of above average intelligence end up being cursed in other ways. I was the kid who always got 100% in any test at school and were it not for my razor sharp wit would probably have ended up being the butt of everyone's jokes. But I was smart enough and quick enough to turn any piss-taking around back on the person who initiated it and usually made them a laughing stock. A trick I'm told that I learned from my father!

However I just hope that I don't turn into my current girlfriend's parents. She was honest enough to tell me that she'd been abused by her father since the age of 6. Without going into graphic detail he'd also been renting her out to other pervs in the neighbourhood, she said she was made to "do stuff" with a 60-year-old bloke when she was about 12.

Of course when it all came to light social services investigated and did nothing, "not enough evidence". She went to live with her mum when she was 14 - only to have her mum's new partner start on her as well.

Her mum refused to believe any of the allegations, she made several suicide attempts (fortunately not successful) before me and her met.

Her mum even rang me once and told me "don't listen to a word that lying little cow says, she's just after attention". I know she's telling the truth though, there's too many things that happened.

Turning into my parents would be bad (my dad used to drive an Audi A4... I drive... guess? ... my mum goes line dancing and listens to country & western music, I don't go line dancing but I like country music!). But turning into her parents would be tragic.

She says she wants to move in with me as soon as she's finished at college, we've talked about kids, her exact words were "I'm not going to be the bad parent that my mum was."

I'm going to go and eat some sugar now to cheer myself up after talking about that.
(RabidRodent I'm the person your mother warned you about, Sat 2 May 2009, 14:17, 2 replies)

Ah no!
Her mum sounds like a pretty worthless mum :(

Her exact words brought a little tear to my eye, I hope that she's doing far better now than she was then.
(Blueacid, Sat 2 May 2009, 22:20, closed)

She's still struggling...
but she says the thought of us being together is what's keeping her going.

If I do end up with her for the long term (and nothing is certain in this life of course) I'm going to have problems with the in-laws. Her mum doesn't like me because:

1. I know about the "history" that she'd rather keep quiet.

2. I also know about the "incidents" with mum's new boyfriend which she accused gf of lying about.

3. I'm quite a bit older than gf. She's not young enough to be my daugher or anything but still more than a 10-year age gap. (I'm 31 now.) Doesn't matter to me, it's just a number, but apparently it matters to her mum. Never mind the fact that her father was doing all that stuff to her.

Time will tell I guess.
(RabidRodent I'm the person your mother warned you about, Mon 4 May 2009, 9:27, closed)