The passive-aggressive guilt tripMy mother is an expert in the guilt-trip. Last week she phoned to say "Happy Birthday" and, after a 10 minute conversation, finished with, "Well, I hope you have a nicer time than I did on the day you were born."
She also stated that she was going to kill herself when she reached 65. On Christmas Day morning. Having rung up to see if there was anything she could bring for lunch.
I think it's just a mother thing, but how good are your relatives and friends at the passive-aggessive?
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chthonic, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 9:52)
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An ex from a few years ago......had a level of skill with the 'passive' half of the phrase that I've never before seen. If I was out for a pint after work, or meeting up with friends (or even, once, my mother), she'd phone me and get me to call her back because she didn't have credit. The bar I was in never had good mobile reception, so I'd have to go out into the street and call her back.
At which point she'd sit silently on the phone, for a good five minutes at a time. When I'd say "oh - are you there? I can't hear you" she'd pipe up enough to keep me on the line, then give me another five minutes of silence.
She'd basically keep me standing around in the rain while she sulked remotely. On my bill.
What angers me the most is that, despite not putting up with this sort of thing, I let her get away with it for months.
I love SMS - "okay, YOU come back whenever you WANT, I'LL be just FINE" is instantly reduced to "okay, you come back whenever you want, I'll be just fine".
(, Fri 14 Oct 2005, 14:32, Reply)
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