True,
but who was it who said, "A bore is someone who when asked how they are, tells you"

That's not to say bottling it up is good or that people should/shouldn't listen or talk about their problems, just that when you ask someone "How are you" first thing in the morning, waiting for that first coffee to boil, you probably don't expect a half hour monologue...

I dunno, it's all a bit confusing, init? :-)

I recently started ignoring a girl I'd previously thought was going somewhere when I noticed that most of our conversations would start with a token "how are you" from her, "Good thanks, you?" and get back every little thing which had gone wrong since we last spoke, with me taking an interest, trying to cheer her up or make her laugh etc for hours, but then when I put the phone down or stopped texting realising that she hadn't asked a single thing about me. No interest. Nothing. If I changed tack and offered a few details or even whinges in response to the first "how are you", it would all be ignored in preference for the original pattern.

So I guess it's all about give and take, really.
(MrOli is ugly, but in the morning you will be sober, Fri 5 Mar 2010, 13:20, Reply)