I think he's doing ok
In that he realises spoiling has gone on and now serious efforts are in play to stop it.

Greencloud - I think someone has already mentioned restraint - I can't find a video on youtube but the way teachers are trained to restrain a child who is kicking off safely is to get their wrists in the soft bit of skin between finger and thumb so you can't accidentally pinch or squeeze too hard, pin their wrists either behind their back or by their sides with the adult stood behind them, then get your hip in the small of their back. Having had this done to me as a demo it's very effective, you really can't struggle out of it easily and it's very hard to accidentally hurt the child. As they are facing away from you and all your body parts are well away from theirs it's very difficult for them to bite or kick as well! Apparently you can also sit down with them in this hold until they've calmed down. Might be worth a try if she's actually biting.

Another suggestion (bearing in mind I don't know what you've tried and what has or hasn't worked already!) is the old rewards based system tagged onto essentially a punishment. Every time she kicks off take away one of her favourite toys (yes, I'm well aware the first couple of times this is going to make things much worse, but bear with me), so the toy deprivation in itself is the punishment rather than a time out (although the first few times she will kick off so will need a time out as well) but make it clear that if she behaves she can "earn" her confiscated toys back. Make the behaviour you expect clear, don't just tell her she can have it back "when she behaves". Suggestions would be if she can get through the rest of the evening without having another tantrum, or if she cleans her teeth and gets ready for bed on her own the first time you ask her to.

I don't know if any of that will be any help at all and I'm not a parent so can't offer my own experiences, sadly. However my mum has been an infant teacher for nearly 40 years and coped with some horrific behaviour and she's one of the best people I know for advice when it comes to children so I'm learning from the best!

Good luck.
(Petite chien is going to do science to it, Sun 12 Dec 2010, 10:47, Reply)