Sometimes being nice is just wrong.
By and large I believe I'm a good person not prone to upsetting folks.

If anything I'm fairly argument averse.

And so it was with my first wife, however...........

After four years it became fairly apparent to myself that enough was enough.

Things weren't right and so I started sleeping in the spare room.

No great shakes, no fights or abuse, no girls on the side, basically I just move out of the marital bed.

Well after about three months of this it became apparent (even to her) that I'd had enough and it was time to move on.

So again being the good chap that I can be we went around the house together and split the furniture along the lines of one to you one to me, all very civilized.

She received a cheque for £11.5K for the equity on the house and a further £3.5K for the extra "stuff" that I was keeping and I paid her car off as well (these were 1991 £ btw)....

She went and bought a new house fairly close by, which I then helped her decorate (I had my own key), (and no I wasn't knocking her off as we had parted and it wouldn't have right)..

This went on for around another ten months when Christmas and the party season came around.

Until this point I'd been a "very" good boy however having lasted over 12 months I needed a little girl time in a big way and happily accepted an invitation to a night out with a pretty young thing who promised much with her winks and smiles.

So naively I thought I'd tell the ex that I was going to a night out rather than have her find out from a third party, as up until then I'd been open and honest (read thick).

This did not go down well as by mid Feb i was paying £50 per week alimony to my ex who had her own house/job/car and no kids.

She also raided my pension for a further £2k lump sum (ground breaking stuff back in the early 90's).

So in being nice and trying to move on in a good way I was royally shafted.

However there was no effort in getting her to take the hint about staying dumped.

She was happy to be paid £50 pw for a year for the privilege........

Apologies for lack of mirth, but hey it turned out to be some of the best money i ever spent.
(Dark Matter All The Wonders In The World & We Invent Boredom, Thu 5 Jun 2008, 15:35, 2 replies)

you
needed a little girl?
in a gary glitter sort of way?
( ascorbate, Thu 5 Jun 2008, 15:43, closed)

I prefer Wimin to be Wimin
Eh, no, The little girl in question was 26 and dislike GG as much as I do.... and it was a little "girl time" as I'n it had been over 12 months. I may not be the best but I was the quickest....
(Dark Matter All The Wonders In The World & We Invent Boredom, Thu 5 Jun 2008, 15:48, closed)