It sucks, but
people have to do what they see as right, even if a more rational mind would immediately see it as foolhardy. The fact that you and I and all the rest see her actions as a very bad decision matters not at all- she'll do what she thinks is right, and there isn't a goddam thing you can do about it.

All you can do it tell her what you think and how she feels, and then wait for her to make a decision.

Hard to do? Damn right- I've been there more times than I like to think about. I've watched people I care deeply about do incredibly stupid things and fuck up their lives as a result, despite my warnings. In the end, trying to convince them otherwise only resulted in me being hurt as I watched the train wreck unfold as I told them it would.

Speak your mind to her, say your piece, then back away. If she comes to you, all well and good- but if she chooses to go to him, just let it go and drink an extra pint for her. Because it's her life and she'll run it as she sees fit.

EDIT: My apologies if that came off as a tad harsh and uncaring, but really it's just the opposite- you need to protect yourself from being hurt by the actions of others. You can't change what she's going to do- the only thing you have control over is how you react.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Fri 6 Jun 2008, 18:24, Reply)