I'm sorry, but I totally get this, 'cos I get this, not so much now, but earlier in my life when folks were more 'political' about it, constantly
and I totally sympathise with your friend 'Harry'.

As a man who has, shall we say, a rather casual attitude to sexualities and relationship rules of all kinds at the best of times, I'm no stranger to cock or gay clubs, but aren't in the least bit 'gay' in my dress or mannerisms nor do I see why I should be just 'cos I'm not scared of male to male physical affection, so sometimes I have to deal with bouncers or barstaff's 'binary sexuality' attitudes to such things and their insistence that everyone must take a side and never the twain.

I'm sure there must be some term or word for this 'More minority than you are' attitude, I know it exists in other situations such as being black (how very dare you go to uni and get a job in a bank, you should be black and proud of pimping your hoes and shooting a cap in whiteys ass like we are! Living in Harrogate!') and it really does need some kind of highlighting for just how bloody stupid it is at times.

I do understand the knee-jerk reaction to 'return the compliment' for anyone who ever found themselves being on the receiving end of discrimination, but surely ultimately the whole point for any oppressed minority should be striving for true equality and integration into their immediate surroundings and living a 'normal' life, not self inflicted apartheid out of some kind of sense of twisted 'pride' expressed as banding together dressed and behaving as your own worst stereotypes!? And ultimately WTF does what you do in bed have to do with anything outside of it anyway, like your choice in music and cycle shorts!? You're just perpetuating your own discrimination by buying into it, surely!?

So that's just how I think and most folks just don't 'get it', and this leads onto some awkward situations like sometimes some slightly misguided mate introduces me as, 'And this is our gay friend WiL' (which always makes me think 'WTF!? Does he need to be 'warned'!?), and then this new bloke spends the entire night awkwardly trying to think of 'gay' stuff to talk about to me, like 'Hey, I see The Spice Girls are getting back together, bet you're excited, eh?'

Thinks: *No, actually, I couldn't give a flying fuck about the fecking Spice Girls, any more than Winston over there will sell you any fecking crack!* but must breath and smile and gently correct him.

Damn Hets, they're all the fecking same you know....
( ..wil, Mon 26 Nov 2007, 16:50, Reply)