I don't like to advocate violence but
when my lad had issues after moving to a school following a lack of effective action from the head teacher I advised him thusly : "If it happens again and is getting worse and they follow you (he was actually quite sensible and would try to walk away) hit the ringleader, hit him once but hard enough to put him down first time. Don't shout, gloat, or think you won't get into trouble, you will. I will be angry that you have resorted to violence but if it is your last resort I will support you completely."

It did, he did, I did. That was about five years ago and he is very happy at the school and is even quite good mates with the ringleader. Might have got lucky with the advice and clearly won't work for everyone (judging by theOP) but it just might.
( number5 has been fighting tramps and losing., Mon 6 Aug 2012, 12:46, 1 reply)

I'm not underestimating how difficult it is to
do this - if you are genuinely scared of someone, the idea of twatting them is probably terrifying.

It's just a shame knowing how effective it is, and how big a difference it can make to a miserable life, that it is so rarely done.

I'm not an advocate of violence either, but I can let this one go as it's just fighting fire with fire.
(username failed moderation, Mon 6 Aug 2012, 13:04, closed)

My daughters going thru a bit of a trot atm.
About 3 years ago (in pre-primary) this kid hit her with wooden block that she'd been told to tidy up by the teacher. Apparently he was building his fortress. After being admonished he told the teacher to "fuck off, cunt". Quote, unquote.
He got suspended for 3 days for that. Him and his older sister have been banned from the local childcare centre and the place they goto now for after school-care has both of them on a social contract.
There's been a few incidents in the last couple of years where he's singled my daughter out.
By no means constant for her but he does pick on other kids as well.
I've suggested to her on more than 1 occasion that if she were to thump him (she's physically bigger than him) I'd back her up all the way & that frequently this is the only way to get bullies to stop.
She's just not that type of kid.
It's a tough 1 - I suggested to the head that me and the missus have a sitdown with his parents. It seems they're not that fussed about his behavior *unless* he's about to get suspended/expelled, then they've got lots of excuses for why he's a little scrote. Every excuse bar the fact that they don't seem to want to take responsibility for their son or trying to teach him how to be a functioning member of the human race.
If I were 30 odd yrs. younger I'd have have that fucker bailed up behind the bicycle shed pounding his face till he cried. (Clearly no euphemism).
(Misery McUglywife an attention seeking sociopathic fuckstain., Tue 7 Aug 2012, 8:59, closed)

It's not a completely idiotic
idea to enrol her in karate lessons.

It's not primarily an exercise in teaching her to beat people up (although given enough time, she will learn that), it's a great way to give her the confidence she needs to stand up to bullying.

My daughter started when she was 4. She doesn't have any trouble at school, not because she's some kind of thug, but because she doesn't react at all to any threats from other kids.

Recommended - this works for any age / sex too.
(username failed moderation, Tue 7 Aug 2012, 10:43, closed)

I did a few years of aikido & judo when I was a sprog.
Like I said - she's just not that kinda girl.
Try and tackle her for the ball on her Sunday game however - you'd just better watch the fuck out motherfucker!
I'm her coach...
(Misery McUglywife an attention seeking sociopathic fuckstain., Tue 7 Aug 2012, 13:12, closed)

Why not.
Anything that teaches her to defend herself can't be a bad thing. It really is as much about self confidence as it is kicking some big kid in the nuts.
(username failed moderation, Tue 7 Aug 2012, 14:00, closed)