I know it's odd to reply to yourself but a friend here just made a lovely analogy
We should stop thinking of sexuality, and all it's many sub sections and labels, as if being some kind of army fighting for a side and always getting into wars about who's doing what to whom for why, and instead think of it like being in the scouts, or perhaps paintballing, and it all just being just a big fun game we play together. It makes things easier and better to have labels, rules and hierarchies, and have sections of people directed into various apparently appropriate sections of society, putting like with like cos they get along easier for instance, but we shouldn't get all serious and protective about it and feel it needs absolutes that need to be protected or fought for, or get into physical wars about it.

It's all just games, we should be as children are and have fun with it, not try and kill one another over something that really never was meant to be a war in the first place.

Make love not war, then, I s'pose....
( ..wil, Sat 19 May 2012, 18:36, Reply)