x factor
A couple of years ago the wife and I got a very surprising Christmas gift in the form of an unexpected pregnancy.

I've always wanted kids but neither of us had a stable job and weren't even living together as I was working in a whole different city 2 hours away from her. We spent all Christmas debating back and forth about what to do with both of us switching sides at least 3 times until we finally decided that this just wasn't the right time and so we reluctantly called the local family planning centre. It is certainly the hardest decision we've ever made.

Don't believe anyone who says that abortion is an easy way out for women. It's still carries plenty of risks. Apart from infections there's always the ever present danger of massive uncontrolled bleeding both internal and external that can leave you sterile or even dead.

Thankfully I wasn't required in the room for the procedure so I'm left sat in the waiting room, heart thumping away, wondering what my poor wife must be going through and listening to the tinny music that's being piped in.

Just then the best selling single of 2007 comes on, remember that one?
It's the one with Leona Lewis screaming "keep bleeding, keep keep bleeding love"
It actually made me cry. Something I hadn't done in public since I was 12.

F**king Leona c**ting Lewis I can't listen to her now without remembering how she made me cry thinking that my wife would die and wondering how old my kid would be now if we chose differently.
(Bo Nidle Coming back in from the cold., Thu 28 Jan 2010, 21:34, 2 replies)

That's tough
Been there, done that.

It was the right choice at the time and the biggest regret of both our lives - always will be.

Sympathy click as thank God there's no music I associate with that awful time. In fact one huge plus: it happened in Doncaster, which has made me steer clear of anything and everything connected with that shitty ever since. I even wince when the train stops there on the way to London.
(Che Grimsdale Best before:, Fri 29 Jan 2010, 9:56, closed)

Me To
First wife, same happend months before the wedding. She made the choice as being male it wasnt for me to tell her what to do. Went private and down to Liverpool. If we'd went through with things our boy or girl would now be 24 around about now.

I still believe that to this day we as a couple also died and we divorced around three years afetr the wedding.
(Dark Matter All The Wonders In The World & We Invent Boredom, Fri 29 Jan 2010, 14:24, closed)