A tip to women everywhere
Men are not good at taking hints. That goes double if the hint is for something we don't want to do, and triple if we're drunk. Hence, being nice to a drunk bloke who's decided he'd quite like to shag you, is rarely going to work.

Don't worry about 'offending' us - put us straight at the earliest opportunity, and only an utter cunt will take it the wrong way. In your situation, saying "Sure, we'll come to a party, but only for a few drinks" or "Yeah, OK, but don't get any ideas" won't offend anyone, but does stop you from worrying about whether you've 'led a guy on' later. The 'leading on' is not my words by the way - this is advice I gave to a female friend after she slept with a total creep because, in her words, "at first he wasn't really *doing* anything I could have a go at him for (sitting close, stroking hair), and by the time he started going too far, I felt like I'd been leading him on because I didn't stop his earlier advances"

Don't worry about it. If you're not interested in sleeping with us, but don't mind hanging out for an hour, say so, but say so early. Those amongst us just out for a good night will relax a little and stop trying to get into your pants. Those who are looking to get into *someones* pants will leave you alone.

Unless they're cunts. Which apparently a surprising number of us are.
(bblgoose, Fri 25 Jun 2010, 13:33, 1 reply)

This really is
Excellent advice. I could have done with your sage words during that summer.
(Fireyfox is prepared to change, Mon 28 Jun 2010, 10:32, closed)