Sounds like she is in need of therapy
Is she something of a drama queen, likes to be centre of attention, hates it when you want her to do something for you.

Harming herself because you dumped her sounds like an attempt to make you care for her.

Diagnosis: She has mental health problems or maturity problems, probably a bit of both. Therapy could make her a better and easier person to live with, but you would probably miss the nutter that originally attracted you to her. Been there, know how it infuriates and then rips out your heart.
( Rev. Jayneflakes Buy my book, I need the cash for drugs and hookers, Sun 7 Aug 2011, 23:19, 1 reply)

Very perceptive.
It wasn't the nutter that originally attracted me to her, though; it was the non-nutty part. You're right, though: she has both mental health issues and maturity problems. Her mother has maturity problems, and she's 68.

Basically she's completely paranoid about the concept that I might not be 100% devoted to her, and petrified at the thought of losing me. She's already tried the therapy route, but there's always something about her that says "I know best, no matter what anybody else might say." This does not exactly make it easy to get one's point across, as you might imagine.
( .Yeti. El amor en los tiempos del cólera, Sun 7 Aug 2011, 23:28, closed)

you'd think if she were petrified of losing you
she'd stop acting like a nutjob and driving you away.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 8 Aug 2011, 9:29, closed)

this

(DreddPirateBob has watched every scifi film ever on, Mon 8 Aug 2011, 9:49, closed)

Logic sez you're right.
However, I think at least half of her nutjobbery is a direct consequence of her being petrified of losing me.
( .Yeti. El amor en los tiempos del cólera, Mon 8 Aug 2011, 12:30, closed)

you can convince yourself that she is being mental for whatever reason you like
but it still doesn't alter the fact that she is behaving like a stupid cow and you'd be better off without her, and more than likely she'd be better off without you too.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 8 Aug 2011, 15:14, closed)