The Big Dilemma
It's always a big dilemma when you are thinking of asking somebody out. I say that but what I really mean is it's a big dilemma when you tell someone you like them. I've never actually asked someone out but I have told many people I like them. Using this theory I reasoned that if the 'I like you' speech goes well then one can progress to the 'Will you go out with me?' question next. Genius I think you'll agree. Because of this theory I can proudly boast I have never been rejected when asking someone out.

Anyway, away from my own lame statistics. Asking people out is a weird one. but using my method which is the only one I know how to work with, it's only until you tell someone you like them that tyou realise exactly how much you like them.

Sometimes you'd say, 'I kind of...like like you' Everyone knows what the like like means. The only time where people don't correct you for saying the same word twice in a row.

Anyway what I have found is that it's only once you have said it out loud to that person that you realise how much you like them. Some of the time, when they have phrased their words carefully and said they still like you as a friend, my mind has already wandered. As soon as the words left my mouth it suddenly became clear to me that I didn't actually like them as much as I thought I did. That'd lead to interesting conversation such as:

'I sort of really like you. As in like like you.'
'Oh. Well...I'm sorry I mean, oh you're really upset aren't you?'
'Umm...no. No I'm not actually. But I can pretend if you like?'

Obviously that conversation never happened but I would pretend to be upset. I mean you can't act like you don't care as soon as they have rejected you. So really, asking someone out, or in my case telling them you like them, was never that bad.

That being said, some of the time when they rejected you after you liked them, you feel horrendously awful and kind of like you want to die and just allow the world to swallow you up. That's when you know you really did like like them.

But it's fifty fifty. And it's always interesting to see which one they are as I never really can tell. Sad thing is, you can only tell once you've been rejected by them so I have actually been in a relationship or two where if they'd rejected me instantly I'd have known I wasn't their biggest fan (like I thought I was) in the first place.

Bloody emotions. Making me think I like someone more than I do.
(Foz, Sun 13 Dec 2009, 14:12, Reply)