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17,000 writes: Everything bad happens in the dark. Tell us your stories of noises and bumps in the night, power cuts, blindfolds and cinema fumbling.

(, Thu 23 Jul 2009, 15:49)
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If it makes you feel any better
my lovely other half has keratoconus, which will eventually send him partially sighted, if not mostly blind. I love him dearly, but it does upset me a little when he watches trees and birds and tells me he wants to enjoy them while his eyes are "having a good day", because for the most part he can't see anything but defined blurs. Sometimes he takes simple pleasure in being able to read shelf edge labels in a supermarket. It makes me :(

Sorry, that was a bit of a rant. Basically, I can sort of sympathise.
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 14:40, 2 replies)
I've got that. It's wank.
I'm finding it's difficult playing first person shooters in dark areas, as the contrasted areas are impossible to see properly.

My sight's not that bad so far but the consultant never told me about going partially sighted.

(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 15:33, closed)
don't worry
Ask them about it. If it's anything like what I've got every case is different. My Grandfather was driving until he was 60 but I on the other hand was never allowed to start driving. My sight is as bad as my mother's, who is 30 years older than I am. Maybe your case is the same. Good luck!
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 15:52, closed)
I would talk to your optician/optometrist.
I only know what I've found out on the internet or through the Manwife, so it's going to be a bit different depending on the person.
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 16:12, closed)
but surely
I should trust the internet?
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 16:20, closed)
Never trust the internet
Foolish mortal!
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 16:34, closed)

*Hugs the internet*
*whispers* they don't mean it!
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 16:41, closed)
Crap, init?
I know my hubby suffers more than I do when I walk into something or bang my head for the 900th time. Actually, I find that to deal with these things you just have to accept the fact that you end up looking like a clumsy tosspot a lot of the time. And try to not bother about it. My condition also leads to partial / complete loss of sight. I am already registered as partially sighted at 28. Bollocks to that!

I have Retinitis Pigmentosa - never heard of your man's condition but sounds like same kind of thing. So hugs to both from me. People who don't live with this or live with someone who has it don't understand that it's a serious disability to normal life, because they see us use computers and walk around unaided sometimes. But those live with us and love us know it all too well. Kudos on caring about him! I know we can be tiring and grumpy bastards sometimes :)

(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 15:49, closed)
Another one for the blind club here
I've got myopic macular degeneration. Been registered blind for nine years. Fiance has one prosthetic eye (lost it as a kid playing football - had a collision and the arm of his glasses speared his eye = no more eye.) and the other totally blind due to all sorts of severe conditions. So we're well into the clumsy tosspot club here.

People cut me more slack now that I have to use a guide cane to get about, and the fiance has a guide dog. Not much of a trade off though. I'd rather still have enough sight to be thought of as merely a clumsy arse rather than "that poor blind bird."

Still, it could be worse. We care about our loved one, and are cared about, as are you guys by the sounds of it - trite as it sounds that's worth a shit load in my book.
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 16:01, closed)
To the post above, and the one above that
Warning: Gooey relationship rubbish ahead. I think the most important thing to do in a relationship is to care for and look after each other. When one, or both of you has a condition (keratoconus for him) or a disability (dyspraxia/Aspergers for me), that care has to run to another level. When the light is bad, I hold his hand to guide him, and when I wander aimlessly into a road with the dyspraxia, he pulls me back onto the pavement to stop me getting run over. So it doesn't happen to a "normal" couple, but I think it just shows how much two people can love each other (even the way of showing it is a strange and the 'care' is an automatic thing to do).
(, Wed 29 Jul 2009, 16:16, closed)

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