So elope then...
or just don't invite either of them.We're planning to wed next year, most people are fine and have said you do whatever you want to do and just want us to be happy, others apparently want to tell us how it should be done. We have been unable to keep a couple of people happy with any plans we've suggested so we're planning on getting married in New Zealand now. It came down to being just a registry office ceremony and no reception at all so it just didn't seem worth it.

Just do what you want, it's your day after all.
(cmouse is pondering about life in other jobs, Fri 13 Nov 2009, 13:17, 1 reply)

I agree totally, I'm keen on eloping !
However, the aside to this is both me and my fiance are blind (he is total and I am virtually). If we fuck off somewhere (which has it's own complications when you're blind, if you've never been somewhere before) and don't invite my parents (either one or the other or whatever) to the wedding then it's no big loss because neither of them really could care a monkeys about me ultimately, but they will certainly get the arse which can have far reaching consequences.
But if we don't invite his mum, step dad and sister either, which would only be fair of we eloped - well, then they'd go apeshit and then we don't get our post read or taken to the hospital when we need to go or all that shit. His mum is our sighted person, to coin a phrase.
Sadly you need people when you're both blind, simple as that. There are just some things that you either can't do or can't afford the hideously expensive accessible kit needed to do it.

I'd still risk it to be honest because I've gone it alone before, not nice but it can be done, but he's not keen on having his mum disown him as well - she did it a few years ago and he doesn't want to go back there. When there is shit you can't do for yourself you needs these buggers !
(womanwhocanonlylivewithdogs, Fri 13 Nov 2009, 14:12, closed)