'Friends'
The lonely depths of my final year at uni. My friends, who were all on three-year courses, had left to become part of the real world while I was faced with the mountainous task of overcoming the fact of having spent the previous three years arseing about and generally avoiding doing any actual study. If I was to get a decent degree I would need to knuckle down and get on with it.

By way of relief, I fell in the Rag crowd. A bit worthy some of them, and often rather too desperately 'wacky', but fun enough in their own way. One of these was a girl by the name of...well let's say 'Sara'. I got on OK with her, didn't have any particular romantic intentions but to put it bluntly I'd have porked her if the opportunity arose.

As time went on, we started to become closer as friends. She was a little bit needy if truth be told, and I was a good listener when she needed someone to talk to. Which she increasingly did, as she began to develop a habit of getting together with the sort of fuck'em-dump'em bastards that some women just seem to gravitate towards. On more than one occasion I, and others, would warn her about her latest crush, only to be left to pick up the pieces when yet again she was left in a sobbing heap by some one-night-stand.

The crunch came when she pitched up on my doorstep unannounced at 10pm, in tears yet again because the gormless cock she'd been seeing had dumped her for someone prettier. As it happens, my finals were rapidly approaching and I'd set the evening aside for study -- I'd been at it since five (having spent the rest of the day preparing to move to new digs) and had intended to work another few hours. Instead I got to listen to her pour her heart out (again), hold her and dry her tears (again), try to persuade her to avoid dating obvious bastards (again) and then watch her fall asleep on my bed at 4am.

Ever the gentleman, I covered her up, walked over to my new digs and spent the night there -- unheated and without bedding because I hadn't moved my stuff yet. When I went back in the morning she was gone. She never thanked me.

Pretty soon after that I resolved to steer clear of her. For a start, it was clear that she wasn't going to change anytime soon. I really needed to concentrate on my studies without having to take time out to sort her love-life out for her all the time. And frankly, how come when she was such a fuckbucket, I never even got a sniff?

Bitch.
( reallywittyname veraciously conspues lexiphanicism on, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 16:58, 4 replies)

i feel for you, man
i've had to deal with this sort of thing loads of times. apparently, i'm a really good listener, so i end up having my shoulder soaked regularly.
i had enough in the end, so now, if a friend starts seeing someone i think is wrong for them, i tell them all the same thing: if it goes tits-up, i'm there for you. if you're stupid enough to go back to him/her and it happens again, you're on your own.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 18:10, closed)

Ugh. I know exactly how that feels
For years and years, I would try to be the perfect gentleman. I would be considerate, and a good listener.

I would listen to girls tell me about all their problems with their men. And I was stuck permanently in the "friend zone". There to be dumped on, but never to be considered as boyfriend material.

Yes - I feel for you, as I know exactly what it's like. I hope you have a nice girl now who appreciates you!
(EuroSong I love horse meat: best of all the animals, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 18:43, closed)

"I hope you have a nice girl now who appreciates you!"
Haha, yes thanks -- this was all many, many moons ago. Read my earlier post to see how smoothly I wooed Mrs RWN.
( reallywittyname veraciously conspues lexiphanicism on, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 19:20, closed)

You never got a sniff
because said type of woman is attracted to these bastards because they're bastards, and you apparently are not. I've fallen into this trap many times.. At least you know you did you best to do the right thing
( greedyostrich Cheese is evil! Cheddar is VOODOO!, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 19:35, closed)