I'd have thought
that if you've been on several holidays together and in your words been like a married couple for a year, then asking her out now is a bit like asking for the menu when you've eaten the food...

I take it the last 3 months have been non-sexual ones...

...and that it's doing your head in ?

I would just ask her for a meeting, say that you're prepared to commit, get engaged, whatever so if she pulled the "just friends" line to see if you're prepared for commitment, then the answer is "yes".

However if she genuinely wants friendship now and nothing else, can she please give you some breathing space so you can get used to the new status quo so best if the "friendship" starts in the New Year, and between then and now can you have some peace and space to get your life back together.

"Take my advice - I've no use for it"

Good luck !
( I_Was_Mordred, Thu 4 Sep 2008, 9:05, Reply)