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My mother is an expert in the guilt-trip. Last week she phoned to say "Happy Birthday" and, after a 10 minute conversation, finished with, "Well, I hope you have a nicer time than I did on the day you were born."

She also stated that she was going to kill herself when she reached 65. On Christmas Day morning. Having rung up to see if there was anything she could bring for lunch.

I think it's just a mother thing, but how good are your relatives and friends at the passive-aggessive?

(, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 9:52)
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Sharing in adversity.
I have a certain soft-spot for one of my mates as both of our girlfriends (independantly of one another) have adopted the exact same Passive Aggressive Tactic.

Acting slightly upset or bothered but when approached about said mood taking the following approach which basically consists of any variation on the theme of "I am unhappy about our relationship/something else that might possibly be your fault/something completely different (eg Family issues that YOU should be more supportive/differently supportive bout/listen to me complain about but not listen to or carry out any suggestions you have for improving said situation) ect feck". This ofcourse sends any man into a complete panic and instantly makes the best of us jump into line and try our damdest to be the most amazing partners anyone could possibly have, cancelling any plans to be with them, phoning her every evening to listen to her NOT TALK!

And then never properly sorting out the situation, just letting the whole eruption fizzle out.

But its always there under the surface keeping us on our Toes.

Fortunately I have grown wise to tactic and have confronted my other half about it. This has almost completely resolved the situation as she is (besides this tiny flaw) the Most amazing woman I have ever met.

My mate on the other hand is Whipped. His gf is a dominating bitch most of the time and out of his undying (and slightly misguided) love for her will do anything she asks.

He's slowly realising the situation he is in but it's hard to tell your mate his girlfriend doesnt have enough respect for him.

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(, Fri 14 Oct 2005, 20:18, Reply)

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