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This is a question The passive-aggressive guilt trip

My mother is an expert in the guilt-trip. Last week she phoned to say "Happy Birthday" and, after a 10 minute conversation, finished with, "Well, I hope you have a nicer time than I did on the day you were born."

She also stated that she was going to kill herself when she reached 65. On Christmas Day morning. Having rung up to see if there was anything she could bring for lunch.

I think it's just a mother thing, but how good are your relatives and friends at the passive-aggessive?

(, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 9:52)
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Coping with Passive Agressive
I've had a few P/A expert girlfriends but as a result I've become adept at deflecting their P/A tendancies. Here's a couple of examples

Example 1
gf: Come on, you promised to cook dinner, I'm hungwry
Me: yeah, in a minute, I'm busy
gf: Tell you what, why don't you stay staring at that fucking computer screen while I just order in a pizza or burger and become big and fat?? eh?
Me: Oh you don't need to do that honey, I've already got your personality & horrid friends as reasons for dumping you when the time comes.
gf: fuck you (storms out)
Me: I'm only kidding, I'll cook it now
gf: don't bother, i'm not fucking hungry now
Me: ok sweetness (back to warcraft)

Example 2
(on a night out with workmates, mobile rings)
gf: You having a good time?
Me: Yeah, not bad what you up to
gf: Awh good. Me? Doing nothing really, just flopping on the sofa watching the box
(Just then a bargirl chatting to a guy next to me starts laughing)
gf: Who's that?
Me: Just a bargirl laughing with someone next to me
gf: Yeah fucking right....
I then get a good 2 minute earful of shouting and ranting which finishes with her screaming full volume at me 'well why don't you just go and fuck her then, it's obvious you want to'
(I'm thouroughly fucked off at this point and decided to retort with a put-down I'd once heard chubby brown use...)
Me: Yeah, maybe I will and hopefully she, unlike you, doesn't have a cunt as big as her mouth

They're both ex's now. Shame about the 2nd one especially, she had a really cute sister...
(, Tue 18 Oct 2005, 15:34, Reply)

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