He should discuss it with his daughter.
Explain what the pitfalls might be but if she decides to go back to her mum then just make it clear that she will always be able to go back to live with him if things go tits up again.
( girlinthehole, Mon 14 Sep 2009, 10:38, 1 reply)

He's told her she's welcome any time
and said he might write her a letter laying out his concerns. Tricky one, that. I don't think he wants to change her mind, just warn her that things might not go as smoothly as she might hope.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Mon 14 Sep 2009, 10:42, closed)

If she's a bright kid then she'll be aware that her mum may not be the best parent in the world.
I think just knowing that she has a father who loves her and would take care of her if needed will be enough for her.
( girlinthehole, Mon 14 Sep 2009, 10:47, closed)

She knows exactly what her mum's like
which is one of the reasons he found it hard to deal with her wanting to go home. It made him question his own ability and suitability as a parent. In reality, it's not about who's the better parent or whose situation is best - I think it just comes down to a young girl wanting their mum and keeping faith that she'll change and sort her life out.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Mon 14 Sep 2009, 11:09, closed)