She was a cutter.
That in itself tells me she's fucked up anyway. Add in the rape bit and it's even more grim.

You have to be one hell of a strong person to deal with someone with issues like those. I don't think I could do it.

Nothing shameful on your part, dude. I'd say you dodged a bullet there.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Thu 11 Dec 2008, 22:12, 2 replies)

Sorry Loon
But I would suggest the cutting was a possible symptom of the other issues.

What you said sounds really dismissive of her, and as an ex-cutter who'd been through a lot less than she had, it comes across as disrespectful.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 22:37, closed)

As an ex cutter myself
I'd agree with BK here.

I'm fortunately now recovered from depression, but cutting was part of my reaction to a lot of issues, and believe it or not, it helped at the time.

Not that I'd recommend it as a coping mechanism. But painting everyone with the same brush is unfair.

/emo
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 12 Dec 2008, 10:38, closed)