Apologies for lack of hummus...
I'm going to hell, because I left my wife and destroyed the holy sanctity of our marriage. She’s a devout Christian so this kind of thing was important to her; even though the counselling wasn’t working and phrases like “If I’d known you better before I married you I wouldn’t have married you” were being bandied around*. Apparently it’s better to stay together and be miserable “working at it” than it is to realise enough’s enough and make a break… well, in her opinion anyway.

I’m also going to hell because I now live with my new girlfriend, but even though I have scarred myself permanently with a tattoo containing her initials and we have a joint lease (something I never had with my wife, I lived in her house and paid her mortgage) and a joint bank account, we haven’t had that few minutes of betrothal to make it all legit O_o

And as if that wasn't enough, I’m also going to hell because I have on occasion spent time telling people how my devout Christian ex-wife is the most judgemental person I’ve ever met and how her and her devout Christian friends and family all now refuse to have anything to do with me, while my unbelieving-therefore-doomed-to-burn-for-all-eternity friends have stuck by me – even the ones who are family of exes**.

Apologies if I sound bitter – unfortunately, it’s because I am. I still want to see my ex and tell her just how unfairly I think she’s treated me… I’m working my way through it, but posts like this stir the embers.


*She said it first, and I told her that I agreed...

**I’m not saying that all Christians are like this, by the way – I do have Christian friends who I met through the church who I still see, and it’s all cool. Also a very good friend of mine who’s a b3tan as well as Christian was a huge help when the ex and I were splitting up.

(Professor Kenny Martin Hmm? What?, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 10:34, 5 replies)

Nicely written,
"Apologies if I sound bitter – unfortunately, it’s because I am."

Made me laugh.
Very true though, being bitter is fine, as long as you've got reasons to.
And it sounds like you bloody well do, so fair play.
( Cawl, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 10:56, closed)

I know how that one feels
But as much as I would love to tell the ex how I feel about her, I don't think she'd ever see the light and agree that she had some part in our breakup.
Surely there must be a bitter-twisted ex-husbands club on here somewhere.
( monkeyboyalpha jumping on the bandwagon since, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 10:58, closed)

Catharsis
Im not sure you'll get the catharsis you require from telling her off. Plus, it could backfire royally when she assaults you just as self-righteously in response and takes the wind right out of your sails.

I think what's imperative here is you seek a solution which excludes her as the evidence for locating one including her is as suggested in your eloquently described tale, not available.

rafter
baz



Ninja'd once.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 10:58, closed)

But...
"Also a very good friend of mine who’s a b3tan as well as Christian was a huge help when the ex and I were splitting up."

As as christian they must still believe you're going to hell. That's nice isn't it.
(robbersdog, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 11:19, closed)

At least your not with her and you got (what sounds like) a lovely gf now.
Hang in there bro, the hard bits pretty much over now. :-)
(billybobbean is still trying to make it QOTW's best of the week, Tue 16 Dec 2008, 11:28, closed)