With
the huge abuses of the system that (some? most?) mothers seem to delight in, is it not time that the onus of power shifted away from them to say, the father?
(dchurch bah, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 14:44, 1 reply)

Mothers aren't the problem...
...it's the system that needs reworking. I know more than a few mothers who go through the same stuff as the (more commonly) non resident fathers.

The system is to blame because it gives one parent (the one with the child...usually the mother because she is often the `primary carer') all the power and none to the other. Like I say - in cases where the father is the primary carer/resident parent they often play the same stunt.

Children have two parents and the best way to diffuse the nasty power play you get during splits is to ensure a balance of power. This country has a presumption that the child has one resident and one no resident parent. In countries where there is a presumption of shared care...guess what? Short court cases and parents working together in their child's best interests.

I'm 9 court hearings, 3 years down and 300 miles from where I started when my son was taken without warning and it's not finished yet. :-(
(Audax Victor, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 21:19, closed)