Well,
I prefer to use the QOTW to have a bit of amusing banter, but this one is offering more somber fare. As it's developing into group therapy, there is something I'd like to get off my chest. I've written this one in my head a thousand times, the content has changed over the years but the sentiment remains the same. So, here goes.

Dear ex-wife's new husband.

I would like to begin by offering you my sympathies, but I'm afraid I'm not big enough for that. You may never have rubbed it in, you may have the decency to still look sheepish and avoid my eyes on the rare occasions we cross paths, but this is scant recompense for going through my marriage like a wrecking ball and taking the most important thing in my life (at the time) away from me. Time has passed and the a lot of water has passed under the bridge now, but I still feel all the hatred I always have whenever I see you hobbling around on your gammy leg, despite the pain having subsided.

Yes, it is true that you only took what was offered, and I have since had plenty of time to re-evaluate exactly what kind of person I was married to. I consider myself lucky to have been given a chance so early in life to take another path, and am currently well on my way to building a proper life for myself, instead of resting happily with my head in the sand as I did for so long. I suppose my friend is right when he says I owe you for that, but for the life of me I'll never forgive you. It's strange that I've managed to forgive her and not you, but I wasn't married to you was I?

I do feel sorry for your kids. I feel sorry for them because although I don't know you, I now know exactly who you are married to, a luxury I never had while I was in the same boat. I know how easily lies flow from her mouth, how little she regards other people's feelings and, most importantly, I have learned that she is one of those people who thinks what you don't know doesn't hurt you, and uses it as an excuse to do exactly as she pleases and feel no remorse at the lies she tells. As such, I know exactly what you're up against in trying to keep a family together for the sake of those kids. While you keep a close watch on her and tell her friends to keep an eye on her the rare times you allow her to go out, I can assure you that it's not enough. I remember hearing with shock in the pub what a terrible person I was, never allowing that poor lassie to have a social life, despite the fact she was out every weekend while I sat in the house, slipping further into a depression. Strange how things work isn't it, but then, me allowing her to have a life of her own led to her fucking off with you. You don't want to make the same mistake, do you? You're obviously smart enough to know she hasn't changed. I can tell you with my hand on my heart, you're right.

I'd love to see your face. I'd love to be there when you realise what you did to me has been done to you, probably more times than even I know about. I'd love to watch your fat face glow red and those dull, sheep eyes of yours gloss over with tears. Even more, I'd love to be the one to tell you, to smash your little world into a thousand pieces like you did mine.

I wont, though. You deserve to go through everything you and she put me through, but your kids? They don't. The day the first one was born was the day I put aside any thoughts of revenge. The best I can do for them is to keep my mouth shut and keep away from your wife when she's drunk, because I have to tell you, she still seems to like me a fair bit from what I've been seeing and hearing. You're just going to have to pray that everyone else does the same, or at least that she's right, and it won't hurt if you don't find out.

Once it finally comes crashing down though, all bets are off.

Good luck with that, anyway.

Yours with big hugs and kisses,

Your quietly waiting mortal enemy.


Christ on a bike. I never knew half of that was in there!
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 17:22, 8 replies)

Powerful stuff, mate
Good read and seems cathartic for you... Sounds like you're well shot of her, though I'm sure you're fully aware of that.
( SpankyHanky, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 17:28, closed)

My ex wife is now pregnant by the scumbag she left me for. He has fucked off now, as I told her he would. Dunno whether to laugh or cry.

Think I'll laugh! Anyway....


lets all go back to watching a smurf having a wank.......
(mooghead, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 18:05, closed)

Assuming you can do it legally, do it now.
Tell him.
Kids brought up by scum become scum or damaged.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 18:37, closed)

Move on
for your own sake, move on. Make your own life so good you don't have time to think about thiers.
( TheSundaeLunch I'm a fucking shrub, alright?, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 18:45, closed)

This woman sounds very familiar.
"I know how easily lies flow from her mouth, how little she regards other people's feelings and, most importantly, I have learned that she is one of those people who thinks what you don't know doesn't hurt you, and uses it as an excuse to do exactly as she pleases and feel no remorse at the lies she tells."

Exactly the same as my ex-wife: an appalling human being. But, perversely, also the most incredible person I've ever known. Perhaps you can't have one without the other.
( ThisCaledonianClown has left it far too late, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 19:03, closed)

I was sorry to read so much hurt
I hope that you can find happiness and peace, but most of all I hope that you find real love, love that wont treat you like shit, because I am pretty sure that you deserve that just as much as we do.
( Rev. Jayneflakes Buy my book, I need the cash for drugs and hookers, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 19:15, closed)

This
is powerful.

Move on matey.
(Archeleus hates cabbage, Tue 9 Mar 2010, 1:00, closed)

Cheers all :D
Things aren't so bad these days really, just helps to get these things off your chest once in a while :D
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Tue 9 Mar 2010, 2:55, closed)