You can't blame yourself.
When it comes down to it, you would not have been able to save him even if you had made the unlikely connection earlier on. I've a friend who has a brain tumour. It was caught early, operated on successfully, radiotherapy and chemo went very well, yet he's still going to die. Truth of the matter is, if it's aggressive (which in your fiance's it sounds like it was), there is no cure.

On a lighter note, before he went into surgery, I gave him a Nintendo DS with the brain training game.

He's recently finished a course of radiotherapy and claims to be radioactive. Last time I met him, I held a geiger counter up to his head, just to be on the safe side.

He laughed both times, but his wife is still cursing me.
( argyleblanket The man on the roof works for me, Thu 6 Aug 2009, 11:06, Reply)