that is interesting
Out of interest, what sort of screening did you have to go through? I'm guessing in today's paranoid era it must have been pretty intrusive
(Carpe Cyprinidae, Tue 28 Jan 2014, 17:16, 1 reply)

Yes, it is.
It can take up to a year to get approved, it consists of many, many interviews with a social worker, filling out a many, many forms and it's designed to bring up any discrepancies to where you lived, attitude etc. They'll contact past partners for references and ask you all about your sex life. If you try to hide anything it'll be noticed at some point.
Our social worker was concerned at one point because my wife and I had not faced any undue hardship together and she was unsure how we'd cope. Not 3 weeks later my wife's grandfather died, then 2 days later my father went and then the cat was obviously feeling left out and joined in too. We had to put the adoption process on hold for a few months but when we restarted our social worker was other the moon with what we'd been through.... :)
(SpangoTheWonderBadger is brewing beer, Tue 28 Jan 2014, 17:26, closed)

wow
Big respect for your ability to put up with this shite and give a home to some little people who needed it
(Carpe Cyprinidae, Tue 28 Jan 2014, 20:50, closed)

Well, it wasn't for completely altruistic reasons but thank you.
The whole thing is normal for us and we don't try and brush it under the carpet.
Funny thing was whilst going through the process my sister was very worried about what we were doing and her biggest argument was "You don't know what you're going to get?"
Thing is, you get a awful lot of paperwork that tells you in black and white their background and everything that is going on.
My reply to my sister was even those that have their own kids don't know what their going to get and she should remember that her eldest child of 20 has severe asperger's syndrome...
(SpangoTheWonderBadger is brewing beer, Wed 29 Jan 2014, 9:01, closed)