Now...
I DO pay for my kids, over and above what the CSA (cnuts) would have me pay. I see my kids very frequently - it would kill me just to be a weekend dad. They need for nothing.
However, a friend of mine, who also loves his kids to bits, and also paid well over the odds, way and above what the CSA would have him pay has a psycho ex-misses - she's constantly using the kids as a weapon against him, constantly planning the weekends he has with his kids for him (and his girlfriend), and now, finally, as he wouldn't do exactly as she told him (some 8 years after their break up), the CSA have been called in by her. I heard the recorded messages from her and the violent, screaming, abusive texts.
....Now the CSA are involved, the fuckups start. Lost documents, huge demands for cash from him despite his having receipts for the payments made in the past. Lies about his earnings (from her), and the CSA believing her, despite (now lost) payslips being presented to them. The amount they expect him to pay would leave a negative amount, meaning if he were to pay it, he wouldn't be able to get to work, pay for a roof over his head etc... The CSA's answer to this, when he explained? Get a loan.
They have now instructed her to not let him see the kids until he pays up!!??? How the f*** has ANYONE got the right to say that?
No, I thought the CSA stories were a pile of crap before I witnessed this.
You, OP, have my sympathy....unless you are a workshy cnut who simply won't take responsibility, in which case, you don't.
(dchurch bah, Thu 21 Oct 2010, 19:37, Reply)