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..for your honesty in writing this tale. It can't have been easy.

Ask yourself: if she had asked you to leave her alone (or got a friend to do it) in those early stages, as she should have done, would you have carried on writing and sending presents? If not, as I suspect is the case, you cannot class yourself as a stalker. There are plenty of replies describing real stalkers and the terrible effects they have on people's lives, and they all have one thing in common - they wouldn't take no for an answer. You never got no for an answer until it was too late, and when you eventually realised you had caused harm you tried to make amends.

Don't beat yourself up, and take Mordred's excellent advice and put it behind you if you can. Good luck.
(eesnahk, Tue 5 Feb 2008, 17:59, Reply)