please, it's not your apology to make...
for "the grimness of this story". I'm so glad you've had some help already - that's a big step and a brave one, so well done you! Might I be so bold as to suggest the odd top-up therapy over the years? Especially as regards your self esteem honey. Believe in yourself and your human worth as the individual that you are. He was ONE PERSON in your life (I use the term 'person' with distaste). How many other fabulous, kind, warm-hearted people have you met before and since then? People who love, appreciate and respect you unconditionally...
I find this helps me regain perspective whenever I have a head-fuck / flashback. Which I still do, 23 years later - though very occasionally now. I wish you well. In hindsight I would've been better to send you a message rather than reply to your post. If I knew how to cut&paste I would do that (but I'm a techno-Luddite). Also I've written this straight off the heart, so I'd never remember it to write again as it is. Take care xxx
( Tourette's ( . )( . ) has a monkey hair in her fried egg, Wed 6 Feb 2008, 12:49, Reply)