The Female Sex Drive
There is often a misconception that women don't like sex or at least don't like it as much as men or want it as often as men.

This is a hang over from earlier misogynistic times when female sexuality was to be feared....similar to seeing a gang of women out on a hen night.

Men and women are not that different when it comes to sex - it's just that their needs and desires often happen at different stages in their lives.

As I'm female I can only talk for my own sex, so here's pretty much how it was for me...

Aged approx. 10

Ooh...boys. I wonder what it would be like to kiss one?

Aged approx. 13-14

All my mates have got off* with loads of boys - they all say so and I haven't got a boyfriend. At least I've still got Simon Le Bon (yes, I know I'm showing my age here...)

Aged 15

First boyfriend. Lots of kissing.
Second month of relationship - above waist touching. OMG!
The relationship continued for another eight months....it became centred entirely around how far we could go without having proper sex.

Aged 16 - 25

I want to have as much sex as possible.
But I don't want to get pregnant! Therefore I'll have to avoid sex and only be involved with men I love.

Aged 25 - mid thirties depending on individual women's circumstances

Babies. Babies. Babies. Babies.

I WANT A BABY!

This is not always the case - some women don't get this entirely hormonally and genetically driven craving.

During the 30s - or sometimes later, again depending on the woman

Sod babies. I want sex, wine and chocolate.
Preferably in that order.

Or maybe just sex, sex, wine, sex, more wine, sex, chocolate.

Aged 40+ I'm relying on anecdotal evidence here from older friends....

SEX! Anyway you can get it.


So here's the thing...women do want as much sex as men, it just varies when they want it.

Most women once they hit their mid thirties suddenly discover they have the libido of a teenage boy. It is also often at this age that women find they tend to wear out the following...

men

battery operated toys

Often they will resort to far younger men - partly for the novelty, partly for the thrill of pulling a man who hasn't heard of The Banana Splits.



I could go into a rant about how younger men are better because they take care of themselves physically....but that wouldn't be true.

Some people male and female, take greater care over their appearance - go to the gym, watch what they eat, generally make themselves more appealing to everyone. It's very much regardless of age.



All that said, a pretty body doesn't make a good lover.

And a cute face doesn't guarantee healthy trouser proportions...but being fit does at least ensure they shouldn't have a heart attack on top of you.





*kissed/snogged/necked with
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:16, 42 replies)

Mine was slightly different.
10 - 20 - Sex....Yuk!

20 - 30 - Sex....oh! go on then.

30 - 40 - Sex....what's that again.

40 - Sex.....pleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaassseeee!
( girlinthehole, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:21, closed)

Making up for lost time now then!
;-)
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:22, closed)

...
You forgot this bit:

Marriage. Babies, babies, babies. Don't want to be touched, let alone have sex. Divorce.

;)
( SeasonTicketless is too often the statue, and rarely the pigeon., Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:30, closed)

Banana Splits?
That's what happens when you jerk off holding a razorblade, right?
( Cawl, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:30, closed)

ARRRRGH!
.
(powervator and NONE SHALL PASS, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:34, closed)

I do my best :)
Mindbleach?
( Cawl, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:36, closed)

Aaaaand
now I no longer want my sandwich :(
(Holy Cremola Foam Batman will be back on, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 13:09, closed)

.
"There is often a misconception that women don't like sex"

THIS in bucketloads!!!!!!!!

When I was in my teens, I believed this was true. Being shy, it took me ages to discover that girls actually did want to have sex and didn't just do it because they liked their boyfriends. I was even older when I realised it applied to most women.

Was going to make a post along these lines myself but thought I wouldn't have time before the QOTW closes down. I've not been following the QOTW much this week. Has this been discussed earlier on in the week's question?

PS. The same applies to pr0n as well as sex.
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:35, closed)

so...
You've basically jsut posted that from the age of 16 upwards you've wanted lots of sex.

So where is the point in your life that you don't want it and thus contributing to men and women wanting it at different times?

:|
(British Steel was participating in awesomeness on, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:48, closed)

Read it again...
You'll see that I pointed out that when you're young you may want it but the fear of pregnancy puts you off.

Then when you're in your twenties all you want is a baby - not sex for fun.

Shades of difference.

Which is probably why some men don't understand either women or women's sexuality.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:01, closed)

also
we want GOOD sex. If it's going to be orgasm-free and generally rubbish, we can't be arsed.
(Binary Solo loves a bit of algebra, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 15:14, closed)

Oh yes!
This in spades!!
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 16:04, closed)

*shows age*

*sings*

"One banana, Two Banana, Three banana, Four..."

*cries*

anyhoo, hear hear chickenlady!

Speaking as a man with neither a cute face nor a pretty body...I am relieved to hear that some ladygirls are gagging for it equally enthusiastic regarding the sensitive subject of sexual intercourse.

woo!
( Pooflake braces for an onslaught..., Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:48, closed)

Erm...
I've not heard of the banana splits.....COME MOLEST ME!

Hehe
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 11:52, closed)

*molests*
*with a knife and hammer*
( Cawl, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 12:00, closed)

Oooh
Just...not too hard please?
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 12:11, closed)

I can only get off
When I'm ankle-deep in entrails :(
Sorry.
( Cawl, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 12:12, closed)

Frankly,
that comment about Simon LeBon was really hurtful.

Yours,
Adam.


(apeloverage committed the vile act of onanism on, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 12:23, closed)

Sorry
but Simon was always far, far more sexy.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:02, closed)

Plus
Simon is not currently sectioned in an institution.
(Bazongaloid, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:18, closed)

Always a bonus.

( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:31, closed)

younger blokes
all stamina, no style.
you might as well go back to the toys.

and often, in my experience, the better looking they are, the lazier they are in the sack. as if the privilege of merely being with such a fine looking man is enough to satisfy all your needs.

:D

banana splits? i don't remember them, but i do fondly remember button moon.
( gypsy turnips, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 12:48, closed)

Banana splits
I remember them. From early childhood, so it's a while back.

*sings*

La la la, la la la laaaa, la la la, la la la laaa!
One banana, two banana, three banana, four

etc etc
( K2k6 has a proper job these days, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 13:23, closed)

la la laa, lala la laaaaa
i remember the song now!
were they stuffed animals that all looked like the singer of 4 non blondes?
( gypsy turnips, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 13:31, closed)

IIRC...
there was a monkey, a dog and something that looked like an elephant in sunglasses...

"1 banana, 2 banana, 3 banana, 4...5 bananas make a gang and so do many more..."

I am a child of the 70s and sometimes, it really shows...lol
(Chad, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:02, closed)

the one with the sunglasses
that's all i remember :)
( gypsy turnips, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:38, closed)

In my experience...
women over 30 settle into themselves and become far better in bed because of it. Women who've had kids are also great fun because they are generally less prudish...

Oh and the few 40+ women I slept with (hey, I had a MILF phase) were mindblowingly good and filthy as hell. I'd take a fit 40 year old over a 16-25 year old any day of the week, if I had to choose.

I lucked out, though - my missus is 28, but with a mind that out-filths mine... :-)
(Chad, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 13:59, closed)

The Banana Splits
I have one name for you.....


Billie Piper
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:03, closed)

Now I'm confused... Who's who?




(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:19, closed)

Arse!
I've just spent 5 minutes doing this


( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:29, closed)

All that said
she is gorgeous!
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:30, closed)

You think?
Don't get me wrong, she's pretty and all, but I wouldn't go so far as to say she's "gorgeous".

I'm usually a sucker for a lady in glasses though ;-)
(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:34, closed)

I do think she's gorgeous
she's got lovely eyes and fantastic eyebrows, good skin, nice hair and despite her resemblance to Bingo she has great teeth and an attractive smile.

So yes, I think she's gorgeous, but she's not sexy, not in the least.

But Nigella Lawson.....
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:38, closed)

Mmmm Nigella...
I'd be well fed and ever so slightly scared... Touch of the vampishness about that one.

Am I allowed to drop unsubtle hints about your biscuits and cakes?
(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:40, closed)

Biscuits and cakes
those are some interesting euphemisms there.

Cake - soft and squishy.

Biscuits - well, they're round and errrm crumbly. Hmmmmm, this one will need some work.
(Bazongaloid, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:52, closed)

also
biscuits go soft when stale, whereas cakes go hard.
( gypsy turnips, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:55, closed)

Now...
...I'd give her a portion.
(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:43, closed)

Arabian Nights anyone?
***Size of an elephant***
( girlinthehole, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:27, closed)

*Size of a cow!*
I loved that!

And didn't the Inspiral Carpets reference it in their song, 'Size of a Cow'?


Nope, it was The Wonder Stuff.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:39, closed)

Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!
I thought it was just me!!!

Waiting for men to find out about 40 year olds...
(Beer Elf Thought this was like a campfire, anyhow, on, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 14:41, closed)

This is somewhat different to my own experience, summarized below:
Age 11: Masturbation discovered.

Age 12: Masturbation.

Age 13: Masturbation.

Age 14: Masturbation.

Age 15: Yay! Snogging. No sexy teim, though. More Masturbation.

Age 16: Masturbation.

Age 17: Masturbation.

Age 18: Masturbation.

Age 19: Masturbation.

Age 20: Masturbation.

Age 21: Masturbation.

Age 22: Masturbation.

Age 23: Masturbation.

Age 24: Yay! Sexy teim!

Age 25: Masturbation.

Age 26: Masturbation.

Age 27: Yay! More sexy teim.

Age 28: Masturbation

Age 29: Sexy teim/marriage/kids/mortgage, etc.
(MrC. Having the most boring username on b3ta since 2004, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 15:11, closed)

Very honest

( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 2 Oct 2008, 16:06, closed)