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She has her fucking hand in his trousers - how is that going to be rape?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:18, archived)

www.thisisnotaninvitationtorapeme.co.uk/drinking/
I could be wrong here, but I think they're implying that if a lady gets drunk and changes her mind the next morning, that the bloke still raped her.
It also strongly implies that only men rape women, and it's never the other way around.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:22, archived)

Don't get me wrong, I'm totally against rape, but I find the implied pholosophy that if a lady is intoxicated (and to what extent?), that it's instantly the man's fault. It's billeting to women, for starters.
I'm not talking about a drunk girl who's essenchaly unconcous, I'm talking about a girl who changes her mind after the event.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:26, archived)

And if two people are equally drunk and sleep with each other, and both regret it, then who raped whom? Neither. Blame shouldn't go to the male by default if both were blind drunk and agreed to sex in that state.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:42, archived)

You can still make decisions.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:23, archived)

Although it seems that when men get so drunk, maybe they can't help but have sex when the opportunity arises. They should know their limits, if that's the case.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:28, archived)

How is that 'changing your mind afterwards'?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:34, archived)

Isnt that what i get accused of?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:38, archived)

who are capable of understanding reason.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:39, archived)

when it actually is 'changing your mind afterwards'.
Being drunk can actually make you more "up for stuff" that you wouldn't normally do. Like dancing.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:36, archived)

So you've never gone out and got too drunk? Are you seriously implying that there is any kind of blame to be put on a woman for being raped?
Are you fucking insane?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:29, archived)

You've been that drunk, thankfully for your sake nothing bad happened, but if it had, are you seriously saying that you'd take responsibility?
That's...well, it's extremely offensive, for one.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:36, archived)

oh you horrid popular page bullies!
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:37, archived)

What if you drink the same amount as you normally do, but it affects you more?
Have you the slightest clue about what you are saying?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:30, archived)

No-one expects you to make decisions after that.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:34, archived)

How can a man tell?
Does a little sign light up above your head?
No.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:39, archived)

ie having your hand on his cock
Surely the woman has a responsibility to not encourage such things by her behaviour?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:40, archived)

It means no.
If she's incapable of standing up, in capable of speech, incapable of walking, then she is incapable of making an informed decision, and therefore having sex with her, knowing that she is unable to make an informed decision is having sex without consent.
The areas get a little grey when both parties are that pissed, but the onus is always going to be with the more sober of the pair.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:43, archived)

Most often both parites are pissed
Possibly in your experience but i would imagine not in others men are not all evil monsters intent on rape and violence... it might well be two drunk people and a confluence of events. It really is far from cut and dry as you paint it.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:52, archived)

if she says yes, groovy.
Also it's probably fair to say that by the time it gets to that particular act, if she says she's not into the idea then it's safe to say that she's not into the idea.
To be honest I fail to see how anyone could get it wrong, without noticing it wasn't wanted.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:44, archived)

It doesn't mean a woman should be violently attacked.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:46, archived)

and if it's rohypnol... well... anything someone consents to after that is irrelevant.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:40, archived)

I suspect you're safe
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:37, archived)

and picked a side based entirely on that to be fair.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:41, archived)

For a while I thought you were actually for real but you are CLEARLY a gonzo fake account.
Not a bad innings though.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:31, archived)

( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:33, archived)

and then decide "no" in the morning when they remember it that the trouble starts.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:26, archived)

does that mean it's ok for him to have sex with her?
If someone is so drunk that they can't even speak properly, then they can't give informed consent. It's not as bad as raping someone by force, but it's not consensual sex either.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:23, archived)

But I'm talking about women who change their mind after the act.
And in terms of 'informed consent', technacly if she thinks he's a "nice guy" or "a millionaire" or any of the talk that guys sometimes gives... it's the same thing, she isn't informed.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:30, archived)

You have to admit, it's a fair point.
Granted, blind-drunk and tippsy are two different things.
I'm not saying rape doesn't happen, I'm not saying drug/booze-rape doesn't happen, I'm just saying that dispite all the scum who would do that, there are plenty of cases where people's lives have been ruined because someone had one too many bicarddi brezers and changed her mind the next morning... or even further on, like when her boyfriend finds out.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:35, archived)

We love to go out, get drunk and have a laugh, and meet guys, but no one expects to be raped.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:29, archived)

If she decides not to have sex with him, and says no then it is rape.
Just because you get a bit touchy feely, doesn;t give someone the right to have sex with you.
I can't believe you even had to post the question ffs.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:22, archived)

On one side of the argument, the picture shows the women with her hand down his trousers on his cock. Her actions are suggesting to the man (from his point of view) that she wants to be sexually intimate.
The other side of the argument is "'no' means no".
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:31, archived)

It is not a sign that she will have sex.
I might go down on someone, but not want to fuck them. I fI say 'No', then I do not expect to be raped because 'I was obviously askingg for it'.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:36, archived)

However, that is how you see it. But when you've progressed passed the kissy kissy stage, and she has slipped her hand down his trousers to fondle his cock, Its quite likely that he will be feeling very turned on, so she shouldn't be surprised if he tries to slip his hand up her skirt/down her trousers too. I'm not suggesting that he has any right to penetrative sex at all at this point, but his emotions and feelings will make him think that his luck is on, and that he will get sex in a little while.
No still means no, and always will.
But she is playing with his feelings and emotions, and just as he has no right to have unconcenting sex with her, she equally has no right to mess with his feelings by taking him along the path that will give him full arousal, and then suddenly stop and expect him to not be pissed off.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:45, archived)

It's not an excuse for rape. but he's not wrong. The way you treat people influences their emotions, and they might not get emotions that are congruent with your own intentions. On some level, deep down, people are somewhat automatic.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:59, archived)

If I meet a girl in a bar (or anywhere) and we have a few drinks and start chatting, and then things progress to moving a bit closer and kissing, if she was to say from the outset "I want to slide my hand into your trousers and play with your cock, and get you really aroused, right up to the point of orgasm. But I don't want sex with you". I would say "no thanks." Basically its a bit of reversal here, the woman is almost raping the man.
But don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that just because he consents to allowing her to fondle his cock, that she should automatically have to accept that she must have sex with him.
I'd also like to point out that this is hypothetical, and that I would not be in this situation, as I'm happily married. Nor did I meet Mrs turb0t this way.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 19:06, archived)

but you are saying that you are happy to let a women slide her hand into your trousers without asking you, and let her play with your cock right up to the point of full arousal, and then shortly before getting to the vinegar strokes, you are happy for her to stop and you both go back to your own respective beds.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 19:00, archived)

( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 19:01, archived)

( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:42, archived)

Yes it's a bit forward but it's not an open invitation.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:23, archived)

If you are going to be that forward.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:27, archived)

( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:29, archived)

Really?
Where do you draw the line? No means fucking no, you stupid cow.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:29, archived)

Everyone knows if you touch a winky, that means you have to have sex with the man! It's the Pickle Law!
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:30, archived)

What a world she must live in.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:34, archived)

I agree with every other point on the website. Just not the one where she is groping him because she doesn't want sex.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:36, archived)

Do you really believe that a man has no control of his penis, and that once it's touched he HAS to have penetrative sex, or he will spontaneously combust?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:41, archived)

What is it that she has done, that implies consent?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:49, archived)

I didn't realise until she apologised for not being in the mood and was really concerned that I was going to be in a lot of pain.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:46, archived)

when you say "no" and they carry on regardless.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:30, archived)

Shall we talk about winter vegetables instead?
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:38, archived)

( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:41, archived)

I think I need to go listen to some PWEI and happy up
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:52, archived)

But I don't think you can accuse him of rape in that situation.
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:39, archived)

even when she is saying "no in fact I don't actually want to have sex now please".
( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:43, archived)

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( , Wed 29 Oct 2008, 18:28, archived)