No, it's not the self, but the drive behind it is of the self.So it's selfish.
'The truth is, when someone knows they want kids, they don't know why'.
Which is why I'm providing this rather wonderful elucidation. I'm telling you why - because they're selfish. It's because they want them.
Like I want a threesome with Natalie Portman and Scarlett Johanssen. I don't need one; I just want one.
It's done (in the UK) because people are that shallow, their lives that empty, and their relationships that fragile that they think having a kid will fulfil them. It also provides the parent with someone utterly dependent on them.
It's all me, me, me. Of course - as you point out, many are unaware of this; many try to disguise this intention, but it's the root.
MINE. ME.
'im not a vilent man but i swer eny1 goes near my dauter an ill do time'
('The truth is, when someone knows they want kids, they don't know why'.
Which is why I'm providing this rather wonderful elucidation. I'm telling you why - because they're selfish. It's because they want them.
Like I want a threesome with Natalie Portman and Scarlett Johanssen. I don't need one; I just want one.
It's done (in the UK) because people are that shallow, their lives that empty, and their relationships that fragile that they think having a kid will fulfil them. It also provides the parent with someone utterly dependent on them.
It's all me, me, me. Of course - as you point out, many are unaware of this; many try to disguise this intention, but it's the root.
MINE. ME.
'im not a vilent man but i swer eny1 goes near my dauter an ill do time'
Je suis un vagabond is an unfunny, up your own arse middle class knob,
Wed 9 Jan 2013, 15:25,
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I'm still trying to decide whether this is some kind of spectacular trolling or these are all your genuine opinions.I really hope the former.
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drimble he'd been white, he'd been black,
Wed 9 Jan 2013, 15:35,
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No the drive behind itis to the genes. Drives have no awareness of self. Even insects have this drive. Even ants, who sacrifice their own lives without thought for the sake of the nest.
Because "they want them" isn't any kind of answer. It's practically tautologous. WHY do they want them? That's the question. I can see why people want NOT to have them. It's because they know how it will affect their careers, their social lives, their sex lives. All conscious, selfish reasons. A reason really has to be conscious to be selfish, because the self is the conscious.
You seem to be hung up on this kind of selfishness dogma. Maybe you are aware that you are selfish and you are trying to save face. Yes, we all are, to a degree, but that doesn't mean it is the only motivation for anything. It's hard to admit, but sometimes we just don't know why we do things. That's why we invented the meaningless word "want".
(Because "they want them" isn't any kind of answer. It's practically tautologous. WHY do they want them? That's the question. I can see why people want NOT to have them. It's because they know how it will affect their careers, their social lives, their sex lives. All conscious, selfish reasons. A reason really has to be conscious to be selfish, because the self is the conscious.
You seem to be hung up on this kind of selfishness dogma. Maybe you are aware that you are selfish and you are trying to save face. Yes, we all are, to a degree, but that doesn't mean it is the only motivation for anything. It's hard to admit, but sometimes we just don't know why we do things. That's why we invented the meaningless word "want".
Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag,
Wed 9 Jan 2013, 15:36,
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They want them ...because they're selfish.
"They just do"/"Because it's different when they're your own."
"Yes, we all are, to a degree" - not to a degree, entirely. Of the self. Me. All of us. Nothing - charity, philanthropy, helping others is done without some at least hope of reward - whether that's money, self satisfaction, feeling smug, or the chance of being a sanctimonious prick.
("They just do"/"Because it's different when they're your own."
"Yes, we all are, to a degree" - not to a degree, entirely. Of the self. Me. All of us. Nothing - charity, philanthropy, helping others is done without some at least hope of reward - whether that's money, self satisfaction, feeling smug, or the chance of being a sanctimonious prick.
Je suis un vagabond is an unfunny, up your own arse middle class knob,
Wed 9 Jan 2013, 15:41,
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JAY AND SILENT BOB STRIKE BACK Je suis un vagabond is an unfunny, up your own arse middle class knob,
Wed 9 Jan 2013, 15:54,
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p.s. side of screenend of discussion. Or start a new thread somewhere.
( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag,
Wed 9 Jan 2013, 15:37,
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