My un-asked for advice
Is, once he's declared himself "clean", to get some form of home drug testing kit. Once clean, he'll promise you that it will never happen again. Tell him that you won't see him if he reverts back, and that the proof of that needs to be his willingness to be "tested" by you as and when you see fit, and for any fail in the test to be met by your relationship ending.
Addictions turn people into liars. He needs to know that you won't tolerate it, and that trust on its own isn't enough.
It might sound hard, but especially if you fear that you might end up sharing his habit, you have to protect yourself.
Think of what might be happening this time next year. In an ideal world, he is clean, you are happy together. In a nightmare world, you share his addiction and the contents of where you live have been snorted / injected. Only one thing is going to stop that from happening - you. And TRUST IS NOT ENOUGH.

Sorry, hope that is helpful advice rather than blanket condemnation. All the best.
( I_Was_Mordred, Mon 22 Dec 2008, 10:12, 1 reply)

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Do you know, that hadn't actually occurred to me and it sounds like a good idea. I think at the moment I'm not thinking that far ahead, to the stage where he even claims to be clean, because at the back of my mind, horrible as it sounds, I'm kind of resigned to thinking that he probably won't kick it first time and I'll probably have to get out of there for my own sake because I am way too susceptible to getting involved with things I shouldn't and have very little willpower.

Thank you so much for the advice.
(clumsyeloquence is a girl, Mon 22 Dec 2008, 11:14, closed)