^ to this,
the "looked untidy" when i`m doing my tax return in my box room office, this is not shared space, this where I keep the biz ticking over, it is bloody obvious what I`m doing. I`ve got too much work to sort out the dogs dinner you made of my files and get it in on time now, hello £100 penalty fine.

It is the denial over that and the rest of the behaviours that was impossible to cope with. " Yes I did, I`m sorry", would at least have been a start, not "No it must have been you". If there is no ownership of actions, there can be no discussion, no start of forgiveness and no healing.
If you screw up a promise than you admit it, and knowing you messed up you are not happy with yourself so the wronged one doesn`t have to pile it on in addition (some do though)

If someone is obsessive and everything has to have a place at least it is usually consistent and you can find things.
(tootired Is searching for a funny sig, nothing good so far, Wed 11 Jan 2012, 11:41, Reply)